Ds is 14 and occasionally has mates over, every couple of months or something. I know the deal, they'll buy crap food, sweets etc, get little sleep but I turn a blind eye as long as they're no hassle, and it's only occasionally.
So last night he has a friend over who's been here a couple of times before. I'm quite chuffed because he's the quietest friend he's got. Literally as soon as the mate gets here ds morphs into a 6yr old. I don't know what's going on but he's bouncing on the sofa, using a silly voice to talk to me, running around screeching and excitedly shouting about the simpsons as if it were a new thing that no-one had ever seen before. No sweets have been eaten at this point. His friend obviously thinks it's a bit odd too because he keeps giving him strange looks and appears to try to get him to calm down. I literally haven't seen him this manic for at least 7-8 years and he certainly doesn't usually get this excited when friends are around.
I go to cook dinner, give the friend a few options of what I could do. He refuses all of them and insists he doesn't need any dinner. I'm aware that he has various health problems and has been hospitalised 3 times recently so I'm not happy with him eating nothing. I cook sausage, chips and peas in the hope that he'll partake in 'easy' food, he then proceeds to eat twice what anyone else has in about ten seconds flat, as if he's not eaten for a month.
They disappear to ds' bedroom, all is quiet. They're on the xbox. I go to bed at about 10.30 and hear nothing all night (the main thing I guess), I'm woken at 7am by revving sounds of engines belonging to motorbike game on xbox. I'm annoyed because I expected them to have settled down late so wouldn't have expected them to be up until mid morning. I usually have to get up at 6am for work on a Saturday. I only have a day off today because dh has had to go away with his work and I've got my first Sat off in about a year. When I see ds I ask what time they went to sleep to get up at that time. They've not been to bed at all they just played xbox with the sound off all night and thought that 7am was a good time to turn the sound back on. It woke his sisters up too who I'd put to bed at 10pm last night to maximise my chances of a lie-in, now I have 2 grumpy girls all day.
The friend has refused all offers of breakfast and lunch.
They eventually pulled themselves away from the xbox and went to the beach. They've both fallen in the sea and have come back for dry clothes. The friend doesn't have any with him so I tell ds to lend him some. He refuses to wear anything but jeans, both ds' pairs are on the line, also wet. There are lots of trackies he could wear, he won't. He's now sat around the house shivering in his soaked jeans. He's very pale and thin anyway and he just looks awful but he won't listen to either me or ds pleas for him to get changed.
It really shouldn't be this stressful.