To wake DH up every time I get woken up tonight?

[Scootergrrrl]

We have three children - one an amazing non-sleeping six-month old who's up around five times a night and and a four-year-old who wakes at least once every night (the six-year-old, thankfully, sleeps through!)

DH has always found it "amusing" to joke in a morning about how many times the children have woken up and mostly I ignore him because the deal has always been that I do the nights because I'm bf the baby and because he's partially deaf and I would be awake anyway by the time he wakes up. However his part of the deal is that I get the lie-ins at weekends.
Last night he came home all drunk after a work lunch, had 13 hours straight sleep and finally got up at 10am when the children woke him up.

Then he had the nerve to joke about how many times the baby had woken up. AIBU to wake him up every time I get woken tonight? And to make sure he stays awake as long as I do? Thoughts please!

Ummmm unreasonable, yes, but not unjustified.

Can you have a night where YOU do not leave the sanctity of the bed, and he does all the fetching and carrying of the baby to and from your boob, and gets up to deal with the 4 year old? And all you will have to do is latch the baby on and then kick him when the baby is finished?

It wasn't the waking that used to 'get' me, it was the up and down-ness of two small non sleeping childreen. I used to get up in the morning sometimes with aching feet

I'm profoundly deaf and have an alert system for DS...buy one for your DH and let him feel the effects of being woken so frequently at night - then he will soon shut up!

when you say joke about how many times the baby woke, what do you mean? Did he tell you how many times you got up? (in which case it obviously woke him up too and perhaps you could see it as a jokey 'we're in it together' sort of thing) or was it oooh, how many times did you get up last night, in which case his fuckwittery should lose him his full night of sleep priviledges for one night.

Let's see him laugh then.

It's a jokey "let me guess, the baby woke up 17 times last night and you only got 27 minutes sleep" type of thing which normally doesn't bother me. Today, however, it REALLY bothers me

Why are you letting him treat you like this?

I think you need to go away for the weekend, somewhere fun with a spa, without your DH or kids!
I think you deserve to be pampered

We had a similar set up with dd. I was bfing so I did the night wakings. And of course dh teased/moaned/joked about the frequency of night wakings. He's observant. And a normal human.

There would have been no point waking him up during the night (though he often woke and got me a cuppa, changed nappies, chatted etc anyway) as what I valued was him taking over during the day for a few hours so I could rest/sleep/have a bath.

I figured why both be knackered during the day when I can use his vim to have a break while he was around.

I know where you are coming from, DP never EVER hears them wake either

And he's not partially deaf

He will, however, get up for them if I kick wake him

What I find MAJORLY irritating is when he rolls over in the morning and says something like "He (DS) wasn't too bad last night, was he?" in a genuine manner when I have had about 2hrs broken sleep or something