To think friends girlfriend is having a weird effect on DP!

[Hedgeblunder]

Basically she's mega possessive and jealous, and hates dp's friend to leave the house, she's even banned him from looking at girls in the eye when he's worrking!
He's mad on her (dunno why!) ad has taken on her dd too.
Today Dp asked (?!) if he could go out with the boys next week, he looked nervous about it and started rambling on about how he hadn't been out with them in forever, they never get the chance etc etc. I just said ok cool straight away and carried on whittering on about paint.
Poor thing looked pleased as punch, I think that they all think us women are raving loonies who control them like his friends girlfriend.
It's weird because dp has never 'asked' me in the 6 years we've been together!

Does he usually go out regularly without you? Is his reticence connected to his friend?

Oh yeah- he works away alot which culminates into nights out usually with this fella who's never 'allowed' to go, he always has to go home early etc. I just think this woman nags so much that they think women are to be tiptoed around!weird!

I know someone with a possessive girlfriend. He ALWAYS had to be in phone contact etc... to the point of not being allowed to go to the cinema.

Tbh I think people should ask if they can go out! Not so much for permission, more 'is it ok, do you need me that night, are we doing something else?' etc.

That woman sounds weird though, seems like a negative relationship :(

You have been with your dp for six years. has he ever gone out before without you? how did he tell you before?

Because I find it hard to understand why a man who is with you, knows you, knows how you react, would suddenly think, because he has met a woman who is controlling, that everything he knows about you up to now will suddenly change and you will suddenly become someone who he needs to ask permission from, when he never has before.

So why would he get nervous, start overexplaining himself and justifying himself and basically acting suspicious?

Are you suggesting that after six years together he has decided that you are someone he needs to stutter an unasked for explanation of his plans to? It sounds like something else is going on.

Do you have a birthday coming up? could he be planning some huge birthday surprise?

I think Hedge means he has never felt the need to 'ask' her before, not that he hasnt been out in the last six years.

Sometimes its good when friends get girlfriends like this, it makes us look wonderful in comparison!

Your DP's friend needs to get out the relationship as fast as possible. Get him through some of the threads in the Relationship forum about controlling partners and mental abuse.

No...I am with Hecate....it's a bit suspect if you ask me! No man would be influenced suddenly by his mates GF's behaviour! Seems odd.