My friend is getting married next year, hen do is in Feb half term and I have booked a week away with friend (we are teachers)and don't get back until Saturday afternoon.
Had a text last week from brides friend to say hen do is that weekend Fri-Sun evening and cost £250. I text to say sorry I couldn't make it as I'm away and could we have a meal one weekend as a mini-hen do thingy. Out of interest I asked her the cost for just the Saturday night - Hen party is in city 3 hours drive away. She came back with the price of £170 for club entry, dinner/breakfast in hotel and hotel room. Bare in mind the petrol will be about £40 too.
I text to apologise that I couldn't make it as DH works weekends and Mum and Dad are away until that Sunday (they are teachers too) and so childcare isn't available for my 2 DD's.
I asked again about arranging a meal/ night out another time on top.
Got a snotty phonecall from brides friend about how I should be making more of an effort and that bride will be devestated and how I can I call myself a friend??
AIBU to think this is over the top as I had booked the holiday first before Hen do dates were organised and had no idea they would chose this weekend as wedding is not until May. I have offered to be the one to organise the second night out as I know my friend would love to celebrate a hen do with me but all brides friend semms to want to do is tell me what a crap friend I am and not accept a solution.
PS bride knows nothing about the hen do arrangements other than the dates.
AIBU not to go and WWYD???