to not want to host a childrens party in my home.

[redderthanred]

Am having an agrument with the ex husband.
Last year DD's party was at a soft play thing. She loved it.
He paid half and has said he will pay half again.

Last years cost him £40
me £70 ( as there were a few children extra and then i had to pay for party bags and things)

This year he seems to have got all grouchy about it and says he doesnt understand why i cant have it in my house. Its a small 3 bed semi. There is not enough room to play games, i work and dont have the time to race around getting it all ready, have my stuff getting trashed by a load of 5 year olds then tidy up on my own.

have looked at a sports centre, which is cheaper, but by the time you add food and party bags in, it pretty much works out about the same cost. £47 each.
he wont be doing any of the work/organising either, will just pay half and turn up.

AIBU sticking to my guns about this, or should i just tell him, thats whats happening, if he wants to pay half and come he is welcome to. but if he doesnt pay, hes not coming?

Redderthanred - YANBU - stick to your guns and tell him to cough up - the tight buggar.

YANBU tell him to have it at his house

i cant understand why people feel the need to have a party every year, why not do something different like a day at a theme park?

because shes 5 and her friends are all 5 and it would be hell on earth driving to one( not one locally) and having to supervise and deal with them all day.
HELL ON EARTH

he wont have one at his, he lives an hour away. If he did, none of her friends would be able to go.

So basically, its down to me to sort out, with him shouting from the sideline.

because he is an arse.

Im just going to do it anyway - ill pay for it myself if i have to.

kill him

So it will cost about £100 for 15 children.

For 2 hours with bouncy castles and other such things.

Plus food, party bags, plates, cups, drinks, balloons, streamers, invites.

i dont think thats too bad, in fact, compared to a lot of places, thats quite reasonable.

he doesnt seem to get that thats what it costs, thats doing it on the cheap.

Shes 5, i cant not give her a party, and shes a little young for like a cinema party at home, or something, thats for when shes a bit older and you only invite 3 or 4.
At the momment she just wants to run around like a mad thing

:)

Reading between the lines, I'm wandering if your ex is being awkward because he wants you back in his life deep down.

100 pounds (my keyboard doesn't have a pound key) the children have a good time, plus you keep your sanity and home intact. Sounds good to me!

No - hes being awkward because he is an arse!

He is awkward about everything. But then he does tell me occassionaly how well he thinks dd is doing and that it is down to me.

We had an aggument about 3 weeks ago about swimming lessons. I just pushed ahead booked and paid for it ( when he had said he would pay half.) he sid dd wasnt ready, couldnt take instruction, would hate it. It was messing with an hour of his time with her.

Turns out she loves it, she counts down the says till she can go again, and is doing really really well.

Hes just an arse to cause me problems.

Am booking the damn party. have decided he can pay and come. or not pay, in which case he is not invited. Its up to him then.

Yanbu mr tight arse is looking at ways not to pay up. Book the party and continue with her lessons and bill him half.

Yes just book it and let him please himself, either pay or not (but if he comes then he should!!) but if you did not do it because he is not paying, then your dd would be the one missing out. but YANBU to be annoyed by this, being tight towards his own dd just to cause problems is quite pathetic