"I also use cheques a lot. I use them for:
school dinners
milkman
cleaner
music lessons
work on the house (builders, furniture etc)
school trips"
The school accepts online payment for everything via parentpay. Other schools can do so if they wish. They say (and my OH is on the finance committee of the governors, so I believe it to be true) that it's far cheaper and easier than dealing with cheques. This covers food, trips, lockers, everything.
The milkman I pay cash.
The cleaners I pay online.
The music lessons I pay online (two of them), and cash (the other two: that the first two do it online says there's no reason the others couldn't).
Builders I pay online.
School trips see above.
"if I want to direct pay anyone I dont already have set up, I have to have a finegrprint machine connected to the machine and a card reader"
Then find a bank who aren't so stupid. The market at work.
"If you think back even 10yrs - the way many things were done were different, techonology was different. Go back 20yrs to when many of us were children and many of the ways that we conduct are daily lives are different from our parents - yet (the majority) of our parents coped with the changes. "
Exactly. As you point out, remember all the nonsense about C&P, direct payment of benefits, the abolition of uncrossed cheque books, the introduction of a/c payee only chequebooks: at every hand's turn, predictions of the end of the world. And yet it still turns. I'm just about old enough to remember decimalisation: I'm sure there were dire prognostications there too, and yet it just happened. Most of Europe switched to the Euro without problems of the sort being predicted: a complete change of coinage. Many countries don't even have cheques, and the guarantee scheme is almost uniquely British.