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SheWillBeLoved · 22/09/2010 15:36

DD is 14 months, and I'm going on a very rare night out on Saturday for a dear friends 30th birthday. DD has only ever 'slept out' once, at my parents, who live a few streets away. But my parents are on holiday until Tuesday, so my mum can't babysit until I get home, or have her overnight at her house.

Ex-DP's mum (we still see her a few times a month so she can keep up with DD) has offered to have her overnight for me. She lives 20 miles away. The problem for me is, I'm a sucker for routine and have had DD in one that suits us since she was 3 months. The morning after my night out, ex MIL has to be up, and out at 7.30am to take her other 2 granddaughters who will be staying the night also to a Morris Dancing competition in Wales. DD is often still asleep at 7.30am, so I've gotten myself in a bit of a flap about her routine.

I'm being fucking stupid, I know I am, she's a very easy adaptable baby, and she will be just fine. But I could feel my blood pressure rising when she said to me "She will be all right, I'll get her up, dressed, and feed her on the coach, I used to do it with these two (meaning other granddaughters)". Then I think "Well, when will she have her naps?" - I have been to watch one of these competitions, they're bloody noisy, and there'll be too much commotion for DD to even consider having a nap. Cue nightmare baby at bedtime for hungover Mummy.

I have no choice do I? If I want to go, I'm just going to have to be grateful, smile trough gritted teeth, and let her chuck my routine out of the window for the day.

Please form an orderly queue for the slapping Grin

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mamsnet · 22/09/2010 15:38

Slap.. slappedy slapslapslap..

And now Fucking Relax Grin

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Serendippy · 22/09/2010 15:39

Nightmare baby at bedtime for a hungover mummy is still better than perfect baby with a miserable mummy who missed her night out, IMO. Go, have fun and deal with baby when you return, it might be fine. It will be worth it.

Chil1234 · 22/09/2010 15:39

Your baby can't tell the time and won't honestly know if it's 6.30 or 7.30 (We put the clocks back soon... same thing) One day doesn't bollocks up a routine. She'll enjoy all the fuss and noise of a Morris Dancing comp. But I know how you feel when you've got it all under control.

Relax...enjoy the night out... ungrit the teeth.

VinegarTits · 22/09/2010 15:39

If you want to go out you have no choice, she will be fine, other GC have survived her havent they? stop worrying and enjoy your night out and a lie-in!

OrmRenewed · 22/09/2010 15:40

Slap!

Slight break in routine versus night out... hmm tricky one Grin

Chil1234 · 22/09/2010 15:40

Should add... she will probably sleep right though the Morris Dancing comp. It's outdoors for a start and babies' ability to sleep seems to be in inverse proportion to the decibel level.

highonahill · 22/09/2010 15:41

You've kind of answered you own question in the posting. Fine the routine has suited you up to now. Maybe at 14 months it's time to get a bit more flexible, so DD can adapt to other situations.

If you have another one, you'll never have this style of routine with them.

Don't fret and have a great night out.

VictorianIce · 22/09/2010 15:41

Just how drunk are you planning to get if you think you'll still have a hangover at bedtime? Grin

DottyDot · 22/09/2010 15:41

SLAP!!! She'll be fine - it won't be how you do it but it'll be OK, honest!

Grin
Nominee · 22/09/2010 15:43

No slapping - I totally understand how you feel - I was forever like this about my ds at that age, however, what really helped me was just to think that as long as my ds came back alive and in one piece then it was a success Grin.

If I were you I would go out and have a fantastic night and try not to think about your dd too much. Your ex-mil will cope, and I am sure that she will call or text you if there are any major issues.

chitchat09 · 22/09/2010 15:44

Who knows, maybe the Morris Dancing will be like white noise to her!!!

Oh and 'slap'!!!! Go and enjoy your night out!!! (Hopefully followed by many more! Wink)

SheWillBeLoved · 22/09/2010 15:45

Thanks for the slaps Grin

I know she'll be fine, I've dodged her routine myself now and again when I've had no other option.

VictorianIce - I haven't drank in 6+ months, does that answer your question? Grin

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DetectivePotato · 22/09/2010 15:46

I am very precious about DS's routine, mainly as I have M.E. and I reply on having a routine too. Its not U for you to be feeling this way.

However, you will get a night out, that you will love. Your DD will be fine. Its only as DS is 2.7 that I now realise how adaptable babies and toddlers can be. Your DD also probably will sleep through the noise, babies have an amazing ability to sleep anywhere and through anything!

Enjoy your night out!!

mnistooaddictive · 22/09/2010 15:52

Remember a routine is there to make your life easier! I always had a strong routine but we break it once or twice a month if it makes our lives easier. She may be hell by bedtime but it will be Ok!

SheWillBeLoved · 22/09/2010 15:58

You're all right, damn you all Wink

She will be fine, if she's tired enough she will sleep, and if not - it's not me who has to deal with cranky baby Grin well, at least not until night time, and hopefully by that time she'll be so exhausted she will just pass out!

Now I just have to stress about something to wear Grin

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SloanyPony · 22/09/2010 16:01

I've often wondered, whilst hungover, if you rang social services and asked really nicely, would they do bath book and bed for you?

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