wibu to tell nrly 5yr old this is like a death spot?

[DaisyDaresYOU]

the road we have to get across to get to school has two rows of cars you have to look behind.you just cannot see the cars coming down,i doubt they can see us either.its the layout of the roads and garages,people are to lazy to use them as they are behind the houses,so they are clogging up what is already a tiny road.honestly the road layout is shit here.if a kid crosses road alone as a car comes down they will have no chance

I think there are other ways of explaining that wont scare and worry your child!

YABU.

It did slip out in my defence

I think you should tell your local public representative about the 'death spot', and use more appropriate language for your dear 5 year old.

You are with your child I presume crossing this road? I wonder why you even need to mention it? At 5 a child has very little control over things in their lives - I feel it's a mistake to transfer your anxiety and fears onto them.

As an adult you can do something about this road, your child cannot - and if s/he does get hit by a car, would the fact that you mentioned anything to him/her lead him / her to blame themselves??

So I think you would be very foolish to tell your 5yo that you think this road is a 'death spot'.

Concentrate your effort into doing something more productive with your fear. The buck stops with you - don't dump your fears and anger on your child.

.I did feel guilty which is why i posted on here and please dont make me out to be a bad parent because i am not.i have already had to explain what death is to him in a way that wont scare him.i accept i was bu but im not a bad mum

I think children appreciate a bit of no-nonsense language, to be honest. They are not as faint-hearted as some adults when it comes to concepts of 'life' & 'death'. Definitely no point woollying about the bush when it comes to safety. You're perfectly entitled to say whatever you feel is appropriate to keep him away from or at least very wary of that section of road.

Thanx chil.He wasn't scared when i said it because iv already had to explain death to him.When a child dies in your family its hard not to say your fears out loud

maybe explain it as accident black spot would be more suitable

don't think he's scarred for life though

I could of worded it better but i really do worry bout it.its a blind spot.people park right next to where you cross all the way up road.there should be a zebra crossing

I have nearly gone out in front of a motorbike with my ds