to think there are somethings you should keep quiet about?

[2shoes]

I mean if you are a grown up, surely admitting you love G(won't put the word as tis offensive) or are scared of a certain disability, of have racist tendency's(these are examples that popped to mind not digs)
surely you keep it quiet

I think people are more likely to keep them quiet in real life but this is annonymous.

I am always torn on this. Part of me likes to know who that total twats are.
Now if only we could get them tattooed....

Agree with pagwatch, the whole point is that they are embarassed by their feelings and do everything possible in RL to not hurt other people's feelings, however this is anonymous and people should be able to say what they like. There is a sliding scale, for example some people are racist and proud, seeing themselves as in the right, others are ashamed that they feel a certain way. Are they all as bad as each other?

so ok to say the unsayable(is that a word) if you are hidden........

Yep, I never get to meet arseholes in real life.

Tis nice to meet them on here.

Yes. I am sure lots of people have feelings they don't like or understand, better to talk them through and try to find a solution rather than continuing never to say anything for fear of upsetting someone. If people can overcome these issues, surely that makes for a better society than one where people have all sorts of feelings inside and actively have to modify their behavior?

Not talking here about people who are saying things to get a rise, or people who are actually sexist/racist/etc, just mean the people who don't want to think as they do.

Am I the only one with no idea what the offensive g word is?

sorry I know you said the word is offensive but I have no clue what you mean G***

x post trillian, no :)

golliwog

i think it's a doll of some kind if that's any help?

x posted!

ah! thanks

sorry shoesy
I won't use some words in converstaion - like cuntbucket and fucktard - but I think if you are going to have a conversation about language you have to actually say the word

I don't think the fact that people say stuff while they are concealed is OK. I just think that is why they do. Some people really don't care how what they do negatively affects others but will keep their mouth shut in public as they may expose themselves to a bad reaction
Racists rarely say racistthings as work for fear of sacking. Funnily enough DS2 has never been shouted out with big strong and pissed off DH but has with me or the children

Seriously? A childrens toy from a less racially sensitive era and you censor it? If you are talking about 'this is an offensive thing let's talk about what it means' I would think it would be fine to say nigger which is s properly offensive word.

Anyway, I think I agree with serendippy, an anonymous forum is the perfect place to say 'i don't like x' or 'y makes me feel uncomfortable' and be educated, or told that if you continue to feel that way after having things explained to you then you should definitely keep it to yourself in real life.

So Trillian
About cunt bucket....

at 'properly offensive'

I just didn't put it as didn't want to offend, will golly do(although that could just be very enid blyton) I am starting to wonder if I should have practiced what I preach and kept quiet.:o

I have a golliwog which reminds me of my maternal grandparents and of which I am very fond. It was given to me when I was small (am now 44), so it was just something to cuddle that had a tailcoat and stripy trousers.

It is entirely possible to have affection for a toy, and be aware that racism is wrong at the same time.

I think older people who grew up in an earlier age when such things were more acceptable probably wonder what all the fuss is about but keep quiet anyway to fit in.

I always encourage people to finish in RL if they start on I'm not racist but... Line so we can have a proper chat and unravel why it is bollocks. It is much better than having people stewing away thinking oh, immigrants get this, immigrants get that and getting more and more angry if whatever it is is not actually true! (and it never is true)

I might have grown up in an earlier age Randy, but I wouldn't quite class myself as an 'older person' yet (that's my pils and my Mum!!)