To want to tell him he isn't really Godfather....

[JeezyPeeps]

Unilateraly, my ex decided to tell his slightly odd friend he is godfather to our children.

1. My children have not been christened

2. I should have a say in this

3. (Okay, this is probably where I start to be U) - he 'came out' as gay a few years ago - which in itself I have no issue with. But my ex has a bad habit of not closing the bathroom door when he goes for a wee or even a shower. And you can see in the bathroom door from the living room window. I had noticed that any time my ex went to the loo, his friend would go out for a smoke. And he actually told my ex after one of these trips that he had seen him when he was getting dried after the shower.

4. He wants me to send my children down to stay with him for a holiday to his shared flat with two other (younger) guys, none of which has ever been a parent or to my knowledge had to take care of a child for any length of time. He lives in Wales, I live in the north of scotland.

AIBU to just want to say 'you can't be their godfather, they have not been christened' in the hope that will stop him wanting to take the kids away. I'm running out of excuses!

YANBU to say he's not Godfather, but WTF has that got to do with him having them for a holiday? Don't hope it'll put him off, actually say 'NO WAY'- you don't need an excuse not to let you DC's go somewhere far away, on a holiday you don't want them to go on.

Just say no thanks. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

It is odd that you and your ex haven't decided together that this man is to be your dcs godfather. I think you should actually let him know. It can mean a big responsibility and honour to some people and if it's not on with you, then I should you should tell your ex that this is the case and discuss how you're going to tell his friend the same.

Perhaps the 'odd' man just wanted to let your ex know that he wasn't being as private as he thought.

Don't send your children to stay with people you don't know and trust. Not necessarily because of anything sinister. Just because that's what a good parent does. You're absolutely right on that point.

You talk about your Ex's odd friend, but I think your ex is pretty odd himself (weird announcements about godparents when the kids aren't christened and showering/peeing in full view of the street).

To be fair, its not in full view of the street - only the back garden. There are no houses within half a mile of the back of the house.

Nad no, he told my ex he could see him, and then every time he went to the loo the friend would disappear out the back door. It was obviously deliberate (despite the fact that my ex started closing the door)

OMG, my FREAK alarm just went off!!!

They are both as bad as each other!

Your Ex is an Ex, you don't need to pander to him, He, tbh is a LOON!!! and if the odd friend (massive understatement there!) bothers you, just be straight with him.

No, you can't be a godfather without a christening and (hell) No you will not be sending your kids for holidays thank you very much.

Why are you letting these people in your house???

They are YOUR kids
The odd mate, is HIS mate, not yours.
Why would you let your kids go on holiday with someone elses friend?!