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AIBU?

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Original poster

to not utter a WORD about what baby names I like as...

24 replies

TotorosOcarina · 19/09/2010 20:25

any names I have mentioned to my mum up to now have gotten 'oh god no, don't call him/her that!!' with later on .. 'well as long as you don't call him/her xyz' Xyz being the name I said I liked Hmm

They were 'down' on both DS and DDs names during my pregnancies but both now agree they suit them perfectly.

So AIBU to not even drop a little hint ... even though doing so will probably cause endless grumbling from them?!

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MorrisZapp · 19/09/2010 20:26

Anybody who discusses baby names before the arrival is asking for trouble.

YANBU

HumphreyCobbler · 19/09/2010 20:27

YANBU

hairytriangle · 19/09/2010 20:28

YANBU! None of her business, or anyone else's!

DaisyDaresYOU · 19/09/2010 20:28

I think all mums are like this tbh i know my mum is.yanbu

TwistAndShout · 19/09/2010 20:29

YANBU.

I still have moments where I wish I'd called DS3 Conrad but didn't as my Mum cried "Oh good God no, if you call him that I'm going to have another name I use for him." WTF?

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TotorosOcarina · 19/09/2010 20:29

Shes just rang to 'suggest' a name. Its a name thats nothing like my kids name!! She saw a guy on Xfactor who was lovely and had a lovely name Hmm

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scottishmummy · 19/09/2010 20:32

or have fun,spin her some silly names.see her head rock

alicet · 19/09/2010 20:35

When we were deciding what to call ds2 (knew he was a boy but before he was born) we made the mistake of telling mil. Her response was 'you can't call him that if you do I won't love him' wtf?!!

My response was 'don't be ridiculous you can't decide not to love a BABY because of his name!!' Shut her up but unfortunately my dh decided he didn't really like the name (not because of mil though) so we didn't use it in the end.

Probably a flaw in my character but her reaction actually made me like it more! Grin

YANBU

AMumInScotland · 19/09/2010 20:35

Just say you're going to call the baby "Ethelred" or "Beelzebub" and refuse to have any further conversation on the subject. Then anything you do call him/her will be a relief!

SaorAlba · 19/09/2010 20:37

My arsehole wonderful DP told his friends some of our ideas. To one of them the friend said "you can't call him that, he'd be a serial killer" and DP has now gone off the name. Argh! DP has now been banned from sharing our thoughts, however we are still both allowed to ask people for suggestions.

Definitely keep things to yourself then you know it's your unbiased opinion and not influenced by your mum.

Horton · 19/09/2010 20:39

Yep, we told PILs that we were calling ours Moonbeam. They were delighted that it turned out not to be true. BTW, we didn't just do it to be mean, only because we were informed early on 'I suppose you'll pick a funny London name'. WTF?

YANBU. Don't tell a soul and pick whatever you like best!

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TotorosOcarina · 19/09/2010 20:40

Was it Dexter? Grin

I'm calling the beanie Gregor - i won't call the baby that, its just a nickname for the tiny bean but my mum hates it ad it makes me even more fond of his little NN!

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Adair · 19/09/2010 20:45

I said to my mum that we weren't sure we were going to go with our original choice (Calvin) and she went (very obviously) 'oh no, I LIKE Calvin. Don't change it' Hmm. She was not a fan of the other dc's names...

I just do the very big and OTT 'this is the name we are probably going to go with so WE REALLY LIKE IT' thing (as I am rubbish at not telling anyone - but don't really care if they don't like it anyway. We are used to it with ds!

So I agree in theory but I can't do it. And when I told my mum our 90% for ds (Max/Maximilian) she was all surprised, 'oh I like that too!!' Grin

SaorAlba · 19/09/2010 20:59

Totoros, you've got me sussed!

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TotorosOcarina · 19/09/2010 21:02

:) its my sons name - people always mention the SK thing on here but never had it in real life and hes 4 now!

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Adair · 19/09/2010 21:03

(hee, I thought that's what it was, but didn't want to mention it 'til Totoro did... Btw, Totorosocarina, can you give US a hint..?!)

fedupofnamechanging · 19/09/2010 21:06

My mum is very free with her opinion. Can't imagine not telling her - that would go down like a lead balloon, but I did feel free to ignore her when choosing my childrens names.

pointydog · 19/09/2010 21:22

You are doing the most sensible thing. Don't tell anyone until teh baby is born.

FellatioNelson · 19/09/2010 21:24

YA absolutely NBU. Keep quiet. If you tell anyone they will offer an opinion, whether you ask for it or not, and you will end up confused.

GeekOfTheWeek · 19/09/2010 21:28

YANBU

I wish i'd gone with my initial name for ds2 instead of being swayed by others. Selfish fuckers.

I love the name Dexter btw.

SE13Mummy · 19/09/2010 21:43

We had a stock of non-names to offer if anyone asked us what we'd call our DDs. Our surname is pretty silly but sounds even more ridiculous when paired with things that rhyme with it e.g. Birdie Purdy (not actually our surname!).

I told my mum that it would be a name I thought she'd like but that there was no point guessing because I'd say no to everything.

Theincrediblesulk1 · 19/09/2010 21:58

I really wanted to call ds Dexter i love the name and my friend went so mental about it that i didn't! So i told her i was going to call him "Alfie" No intention but i knew she would like the name! Not one i would ever choose,Just to get her off my back.

I really loved Dexter and still look at William and wonder if he would be a good Dexter.

Oh never mind some people just don't get it.

cakeforbrains · 19/09/2010 22:10

My mum was really opinionated abuout names, so we told her that we planned to call DS1 Zebedee (no disrespect to anyone with DSs called Zebedee, but it was my mum's idea of hell). When DS1 was born she was so relieved that we hadn't named him Zeb that she didn't make a single negative comment Grin

Bumperlicious · 19/09/2010 22:16

It can work in your favour though. DH has vetoed Betty but since his mum has pronounced what an awful name it was ('but you chose whatever name you like, my dear') DH has said he is almost tempted to use it just to piss her off. Almost though, not tempted enough.

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