or more WWYD regarding invite

[fartblossom]

Hi

I am really in a pickle about a recent invite Ive recieved. Sorry its a bit vague and long.

One of my friends on facebook has invited me to her birthday night out in December.

I know this person from College and have not seen her since 1998. I wasnt particularly good friends with her in college, but she is a nice person.

She has got over 200 friends on facebook, but has invited less than 20 to this night out so its not a case of inviting everybody, she has obviously thought about who to invite.

I dont understand why she's invited me, but dont want to ask as that would be rude IMO. I think she has invited me as she has invited a couple of other of my friends, one of which I think she thinks we are really good friends. (we are good friends, but I think I consider her to be more of a good friend than she does me if that makes sense - she has got other best friends over me, whereas I dont really)

So the question is do I go? If it was a case of inviting loads of people I would have politely declined, but part of me thinks that it would be a good idea to accept invites. I dont really have a lot of friends and think that invites are a good thing and would be good to go, but Im just a bit nervous as I dont really know anyone (apart from said friend earlier, but not sure how well she knows the birthday person).

hahaha I overthink EVERYTHING. One of my bad points, always analysing and overthinking.

Do you want to go?

This is exactly the sort of thing I agonise over. I say go, but I understand your reservations. Just don't go too early when its still half empty, and if its terrible you can invent a babysitting emergency.

I would go.

Just go, it's an evening out not a 6 month contract to live on a desert island together.
A couple of hours to see if you can socialise or not, what's the harm?

good point Goblinchild. I dont have to stay long and might have a really good time. Im not if I stay at home am I?

Yes LoveBeing I do want to go, just nervous and scared.

Oh well we should all do something that scares us a bit from time to time.

Right Im going to accept the invite.

If you want to go, go! Be pleased that she invited you and likes you enough to do so (I don't mean grateful btw, just flattered- does that make any sense?). I am 40 next year and I plan to invite lots of people I haven't seen for years just because it will nice to see them again...:) I hope they feel the same! :)

I would go, could be a good opportunity for you to get to know more people. If you're not having fun, you could always politely excuse yourself.

It sounds like she is pleased that you are back in touch and wants to be friends again, so you should go, if you feel the same way and want to get to know some more people.

Also, she may have invited other people not through FB, so there may be more people there.

Have fun if you go and don't worry so much!!

I'd go and have something to look forward to.

You don't have a similar name to someone else on her facebook do you? I've got two people called Jenni/Jenny who have the same surname and it's very easy to click on the wrong one.