to be annoyed with my other half?

[gremlins]

DP and I met a few years ago in work. Whilst I worked there I encountered a woman who was vile. She spread nasty rumours, made unfounded malicious complaints etc.

Fast forward a few years later and DP has gone and added her as a friend on facebook.
He and I no longer work there and have no mutual friends with this woman. DP and the woman in question were not even good friends when we all worked there in the first instance.

I know it's only facebook, but to add insult to injury he's very selective about who he adds so it just feels slightly disloyal to me.

AIBU? probably, but I would appreiciate others opinions.

It sounds like he has just collected her to me. If your that bothered tell him to dump her i am sure he would just do it to not upset you.

How bad were the rumours and complaints? You say she's vile, but was she vile to you, your DP, both of you, or you just witnessed her being this way?

You DP might honestly not see what she has done as being a big deal. Hard to judge without knowing more about the circumstances tbh.

Te key is whether he knew she was vile - if so, odd for him to add her, best to de-add her adn forget she existed, sounds toxic

Lady in question was quite nasty towards me (as well as a couple of other staff members). She made official complaints to management which because I was on a probationary period could of cost me my job. Luckily (and because she is truly vile) they investigated and found it all to be crap untrue. Stilll not nice during the investigations though.

She also used to gossip about me, knowing I was in ear shot. She was, and still is a total bitch.

So hence why I am annoyed with DP. She really upset me for about the first year I worked there.

Can I correct spelling errors on here? - the appreciate spelling mistake in my OP is bugging me.

May be he is just naive. It took me years to learn how nasty someone was towards me (rumors and complaints but everybody in the work place kept quiet to "spare" me). During that time I would probably had her as a freind on facebook.

He should defriend her. YANBU.

He knew though. She had tried slagging me off to him when we first became friends, and he told her to leave me alone.

I haven't raised it as an issue with him yet, I'm just inwardly seething.

Stupid non-issue which is why I thought I was being unreasonable.

Perhaps she is an entertaining nutcase? She sounds mental

He knows how horrible she was to you? It's bizarre he's befriended her then.

It's all a bit weird and YANBU to be upset by it. I'd be upset in your position. You need to tell him how strongly you feel about it - he could just be being a bit thick.

YANBU. Presumably she made the friend request and he accepted without thinking, or maybe he's forgotten what she got up to. He should defriend her.

YANBU. Ask him outright why he would befriend someone who could have cost you your job through lying and was openly nasty to you.