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AIBU?

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To not find this remotely strange

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HeathcliffMoorland · 17/09/2010 20:33

My DS (4) and his best friend (also a little boy) are always saying that they want to marry each other when they grow up. To be honest, I think this is pretty funny and think nothing of it (not that it would bother me in the least if he were gay, just I don't think this is in any way indicative).

However, the best friend's mother seems concerned. When she first mentioned it to me, I laughed, but she has brought it up again and now appears to be overthinking it.

Just looking for opinions on this. AIBU to think that the other mother is fussing unnecessarily about it and that DS saying he wants to marry his friend is not unusual?

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saintlydamemrsturnip · 17/09/2010 21:52

She's fussing. We had this with ds3 and a girl he was at nursery (and now school). She told him she's not getting married :o

emmyloulou · 17/09/2010 21:56

My ds2 at that age flipped between wanting to be a girl when he grew up, a cow, having a baby and marrying his brother soooo she is a loon.

lal123 · 17/09/2010 22:03

DD1 and her best friend have already arranged the marriage of DD2 and best friend brother. DD2 is 11 months and best friend's brother is 8 weeks.....

lol mitochondria! (But why does he want to move to another country?)

nickschick · 17/09/2010 22:03

I think its very positive,it shows that the relationship he shares with his best friend is special and obviously the role models he has have given him the impression that a good partner to choose is your best friend.

Things get far worse as they get older my teen ds have friends (boys) who hug them and they say love you etc etc and none of them are remotely gay - ds1 says times have changed,boys appreciate friends and yes he does love his friends not in a sexual way but in a way that he appreciates and respects their friendship - so its right to tell your friends honestly that you love them,after girls say it and no-one bothers.

DirtyMartini · 17/09/2010 22:04

A shame for her wee boy that she is so edgy about this, hope he doesn't pick up on the feeling that she reacts badly to him saying it. :(

She needs to get a grip.

booyhoo · 17/09/2010 22:05

not strange at all. my ds is marrying our cat and then the male cat will have the babies

nickschick · 17/09/2010 22:05

Haha was just telling dh about this when ds3 (having a friday late nigfht) explained to us 'if boys want to marry boys its called a civil partnership' thanks for clarifying that ds3 arent my dc so very cosmopolitan??

hairytriangle · 17/09/2010 22:26

I have just spent five mins reading this thread in it's entirity and giggling until I cry at some of these very sweet stories.

Particularly loving 'Davey Potato'

JeezyPeeps · 17/09/2010 22:46

When my children were little there was a young bot who always wanted to wear the long pink dress at playgroup.

Now he is a teenagers and he is.. umm... well completely normal, really.

Pay no attention. I take she only has one??

KaraStarbuckThrace · 17/09/2010 22:47

Awww I think it is really sweet :)

Your ds's friend's mum is being silly.

I remember when I was a girl (many, many moons ago ) I wanted to marry my Uncle Brian...

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HeathcliffMoorland · 17/09/2010 22:50

She has 2, but her DD is only four months old!

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TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 17/09/2010 22:54

Just scoff and say "Of course they are not going to get MARRIED. They are going to have a civil partnership, their gift list will be at Harvey Nichols and you'd better not wear the same hat as me, bitch."

I wanted to marry my nanny when I was little.

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HeathcliffMoorland · 17/09/2010 23:02

My DD1 has wanted to marry many things and people... The strangest one being probably being either our (admittedly very nice looking) postwoman or my cousin's (admittedly very nice looking) labrador.

I've never given it any thought, really. Ds's friend's mum had me wondering if I was the only one not bothered by it!

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Whippoorwhill · 17/09/2010 23:11

When my eldest son was that age he was going to marry his friend James, wearing a red velvet dress like his other friend Bethany had. He was also going to grow up to be a cat.

He's actually grown up to be a totally hetero 16 year old with a lovely girlfriend and no interest in cross dressing at all.

It makes me sad that someone is so worried about their son being gay though. This is the 21st century. I'd be perfectly happy if my son WAS marrying James, wearing a red velvet frock.

ChippingIn · 17/09/2010 23:18

YANBU she is and if she is going to stress out about perfectly normal stuff like this, her life is going to be very stressful.

My godson is going to marry his (male) best friend too, because they loooooooove each other (snog) - their 6 year old, very wise older sisters, think it's HILLARIOUS but humour them

Your friend needs to take some chill pills :)

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