to not want to apologise

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Was at my Mums house yesterday with my 2 DS (3 yrs and 12 weeks). They had friends over and wanted to show off their newest grandson - no problem.
We were all in the garden (I live abroad, it's 30 degrees here) and DS 2 gets hungry. Mum and Dad don't really get why I breastfeed, would rather I didn't and certainly don't want to see it. Fair enough it's their house so I went into a bedroom to feed him leaving DS 1 under their supervision. Came back 15 minutes later to find DS 1 playing alone some distance away from them whilst they were having tea and cake with guests. They have a large garden, with 2 fish ponds, small stream, swimming pool and an electrified fence around one of the fishponds to protect the prize Koi Carp from Herons. I was upset and angry that DS1 was playing alone near so much water, and whilst they were watching from afar I think it's easy to be distracted talking to guests, pouring tea, eating cake and DS1 can easily run off.
It's not the first time he's been left like that in the garden and I've asked before that it doesn't happen. I couldn't hide my anger and was a bit short with my Mum (can't remeber exactly what I said). She's now furious with me and says I embarrassed her in front of guests and should apologise. I think I'm justified in being upset that one of them wasn't with DS1.
AIBU???

How often do we read of 'tragic accidents',when childen drown in garden ponds.....yanbu.....grandparents should be just as careful as parents should be..(maybe even more so)...don't blame you for one minute for being upset.

Sorry but i think YABU.

Unreasonable to shout at your parents in front of guests & unreasonable to leave your child with him when you say "it has happened before".

"Went round this afternoon and have apologised for being off and GP's have promised increased vigilance"

Phew! Good result.

Good result. But another easy solution would be next time to take your ds1 in with you and tell him stories while breastfeeding. Surely it's easier for you to supervise him while breastfeeding than for them while dealing with a garden full of guests? As you say, they could easily be distracted.

YABU, To have talked to your Mum like that in front of thier guests.

Just seen that you have sorted it out, Thats good.

I think there was fairly good reason to (unintentionally) embarass them in front of friends!

I would have freaked out about this and snapped 'Why aren't you keeping an eye on him?' And I am fairly laid back (honest!).

But I would also have apologised afterwards too, like you did. Glad it's all resolved.

Thanks for the link, whoever posted about silent drowing. It didn't make me feel too good reading it, but I'm glad I know about it.

Pleased it's all sorted but for what it's worth I think yanbu. It sounds as tho you were actually pretty restrained.

Can't believe posters who've said that you should just take ds with you when you feed. Your parents are being ridiculous re you bf so the least they can do is help out with your ds while you hide yourself away from their guests. Grrrr!

OP-just seen that it´s been sorted out-well done!

I don´t agree that GPs should look after OPs son because they disagree with her bfeeding though

Surely the point about taking him with is if OP thinks that her parents won´t look after him well enough then she shouldn´t take the risk of leaving him with them.

CHIPPINGIN, I also thank you for that link as I had never thought about it like that before.
Extra vigilant from now on!

BloodyMary - scary reading wasn't it!! But as you say, better to know - please link link link to anyone & everyone!

diddl - things are rarely that black and white tho re the OP thinking her parents won't look after him well enough. It's not unusual to give GPs the benefit of the doubt.