To think this is an invasion of boundaries?

[MadameOvary]

This is for my friend who is reading this.
She has been seeing a guy for four weeks.
On Sunday she went off to work and said he could use her laptop.
When she came back she saw that he had put his profile on her laptop so that his name appears under hers.

Now, to give a bit of background, she has had abusive relationships in the past, as have I, so am wary for her. So, this raised red flags for me, esp as he works in IT
She on the other hand thought it was sweet.
It was the first time he had used her laptop.

AIBU to tell her to be wary?

Sorry if I am being thick, but when you say he has put his profile under hers, what does that mean?
What would you tell her to be wary of? I am not nit picking, I genuinely don't understand.

Clarification needed please!

so he's set up his own profile to log into and use instead of invading her privacy by using hers?

It think he's doing it to ensure her privacy.

By adding a profile of his own he won't find oout (accidentally or otherwise) what webpages she's being looking at, what her passwords are etc.

I have a "guest" profile on my PC for this reason, so anyone can use that without having access to my info.

yep, agree with others. dp put a separate profile on my laptop so he can use it and add bookmarks and stuff like that without it affecting my usage

Nothing about this raises red flags for me. Seems perfectly normal so you can avoid looking at someone else's stuff or having your own preferences, particularly if he is into IT.

My now husband did this for me when we were in the early days, I don't think the problem is that he has his own profile. It's more that he has done that on her computer. Presumably he can still click onto hers anyway if she hasn't already set up a password. I would go mental if a man did that to my laptop without my permission.

By setting up his own profile he is enabling him to keep his files and work separate from hers. On one hand you could say that he is being a bit pushy to do that without asking. On the other hand you could say that he is respecting her space by making sure his files don't get mixed up with hers.

I'm going to disagree with the others, and say YANBU to be wary. It may be that he did it to "protect her privacy" but as she'd given her permission for him to use the machine, she didn't feel her privacy was an issue. It does seem slightly invasive, and it's worth watching his other behaviours more closely for a while at least.

If she's only been seeing him for 4 weeks he really should have asked her permission first before changing anything.

Seabright - he could be doing this so that SHE doesnt see what HE has been looking at.

I wouldnt necessarily think its a big deal but she should talk to him about it, see what his response is, then take it from their depending on how happy she is with what he has to say.

Sorry everyone, it was a misunderstanding
She meant he left his hotmail sign in on the screen.
Crossed wires, oops!
That'll teach me to leap to wrong conclusions

it's typical to find out after you've posted on AIBU isn't it?

She's lucky to have a good friend looking out for her though.

I'm sure someone will be along shortly to flame you about something else in your OP

As AgentZigzag says, she's lucky to have you as a friend. :)

Thank you. Am still ing.