AIBU to want a single room?

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Friend and I are planning an overnight spa break to celebrate our birthdays, which are a day apart.

I asked to her to cost up single rooms rather than a twin as I would prefer to have my own room. TBH I spend my whole life surrounded by other people and most nights have a disturbed night by DD2 or DD3. I see this break as an opportunity for some real solitude!

We'll be spending time together swimming, eating, in the steam room etc I just want a room to myself without getting disturbed by her snoring, farting, rolling over, getting up to the bathroom, etc.

She's now got a bit of a mardy on and says it will be too expensive (I'm willing to pay both single room supplements if they're not too extortionate) and we should just do a day spa instead and stay at hers overnight (she is single with no children). Which sort of isn't the idea for me, I like the idea of a hotel break and all the associated trimmings.

AIBU?

No YANBU! Especially if you're willing to pay the supplements. (Though I don't think you should have to)
A good nights sleep on your own sounds like bliss!
Can't see her problem tbh

No YANBU as you have offered to pay the supplement.
I only share with my partner, or a sister if necessary. I wouldn't want to share with a friend - I have grown out of sleepovers.

We shared a house together at university 20 years ago so I think she thinks that it's no different to that.

20 years, 3 children and a lifetime later I disagree!

Of course YANBU, you are being exceptionally generous. If she carries on being arsey, go on your own.

YANBU. Oh a room to myself

You'll still be sharing a building. Did you also share a room 20yr ago?

Eh? Why on earth does she have a problem if you're paying the extra? Do you think she was wanting someone to stay up all night with? Could you not invite a third single, childfree friend to share with her?

If she also had children, I don't think there would be any problem here. The opportunity to just be alone is so rare for a parent.

Yep, I never share a room either. I like to take myself away and chill with a book at the end of a day. YANBU in wanting to have that part of the relaxing break to your specification. Go on your own, it's surprisingly good fun!

Heracles no we were in halls together then shared a house for 2 years. Never shared a room.

I'm relieved IANBU, I wondered what the big deal was. I did wonder if she thought we were having a sleepover or something?

I just love the idea of peace and quiet, lying in bed ALONE with a glass of wine reading my book. Ahhh!

I might well go alone if she's going to get snarky about it.

Bertie no, no other single childless friends, and no other mum friends coming due to prior commitments.

YANBU. If she's single with no children and you were at uni together, she might be thinking of it as a chance to relive that a bit and have a 'sleepover'- drinking and talking crap into the wee hours. That might have been the main point of staying overnight for her, just as having a blissful night of child/DH-free peace was the main one for you.

She's probably feeling a little rejected.

OOps, I dealt with the washing mid-posting. Yes to the sleepover.