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Original poster

To be completely and utterly iserable that 10 people at my work are pregnant?

36 replies

laloony · 15/09/2010 19:19

Sad

I am struggling to be happy for them all, strugling to keep up a brave face.

they are all saying "oooh we must all be sitting on a particular chair"...

Why is that, is there sperm on there? which chair is that then?
Bless them all, but SadSadSadSad

I could probably cope with 1 or 2, but 10. wtf????

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BelieveInLife · 15/09/2010 19:20

Are you feeling like that because you are trying and feeling jealous or are you just irritated by them?

MrsJamin · 15/09/2010 19:21

:( that's not a lot of fun if you want to be pregnant yourself. Hope they are being sensitive?

BeerTricksPotter · 15/09/2010 19:21

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domesticdiva · 15/09/2010 19:22

Are you TTC laloony? If so yadnbu! Though I also feel for your boss too having to sort out all that maternity cover. Think positive and when you have a new team tell them its compulsory to buy you cake every monday! Grin

FioFio · 15/09/2010 19:23

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laloony · 15/09/2010 19:24

5mcs.
Sad
one of them keeps going on about it beng a huge mistake as she was on abs..huge mistake, cant believe it she keeps saying.

ahhhf eck off.

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xstitch · 15/09/2010 19:24

If it is because you are trying yourself then YANBU. Lots of people at my work were pregnant just after I had a miscarriage and I found it very difficult. Don't get me wrong I was pleased for them. Its just everytime I saw a pregnant woman it was a reminder of what a failure as a woman I felt myself to be.

mistletoekisses · 15/09/2010 19:25

This happened at our company, what made it difficult for the bunch of us who were was that one of the pregnant ladies suffered a miscarriage. Sad

We tried to be as sensitive as possible when she was around, I didnt even allude to my pregnancy. But as a few of us started to show, it became very difficult for her.

But it all ended well as she fell pregnant again and had a beautiful DC.

Are you TTC? Why is it bothering you so much?

Original poster
laloony · 15/09/2010 19:27

5 mcs

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mistletoekisses · 15/09/2010 19:27

Oh laloony. Sorry x-posts. Sad

Can I ask, do they know? And YANBU, I cannot imagine how you feel.

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Aitch · 15/09/2010 19:28

oh love, that is rotten. i hope your luck turns, and i know that after five losses you are going to feel gloomy but i promise (from bitter experience) all this stuff turns on a dime and in a few months you could be there too...

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laloony · 15/09/2010 19:29

think one or two know but i always just go in hospital, get strong drugs, sty overnight while miscarrying then back to work in a day or two.

Wouldnt want to make them feel at all uncomfortable and i think if they knew they would feel awkward, dont want that.

just steering clear of them really. keep myself to myself.

its just not fair.

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Aitch · 15/09/2010 19:31

it is completely not fair, i feel awful for you. i so hope you get lucky and stay lucky soon.

BelieveInLife · 15/09/2010 19:32

You poor thing. YANBU - DEFINITELY NOT!

Don't know what else to say, horrible situation for you to be in and I can imagine how hard it must be.

mistletoekisses · 15/09/2010 19:33

Oh Laloony, what are these people like? Would you be able to approach even a few of them? I didnt feel at all uncomfortable infront of my colleague, I would have been more upset to learn that I was being unknowingly totally tactless.

Please stay positive.

TheBolter · 15/09/2010 19:35

Oh you poor thing. I totally respect your reasons for wanting to keep quiet about your mcs but have you one or two friends among 'the pregnant ones' who you can confide your feelings to? Maybe they will quietly ask the others to act with a little sensitivity around you, and better still, explain your lack of enthusiasm for them. Which is completely understandable, by the way. Sad

TheBolter · 15/09/2010 19:35

x post with mistletoe

Original poster
laloony · 15/09/2010 19:38

Naa, not really. They are work colleagues, and i am not really comfortable telling them private stuff.

scan pictures bouncing round all over the place

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SparkleRainbow · 15/09/2010 19:56

I am so sorry, I have been there although only with 2 colleagues not 10! It is so hard. Would you be happy for one colleague you know better to have a quiet word with them for you, no details but just to say everyone is thrilled for them but please remember that it is a sensitive issue for some...mentioning no names? Big hugs from me x

saltyair · 15/09/2010 20:03

Oh laloony I feel for you. Tis much the same at my work - many pregnant ladies one of whom has the due date I had for my last m/c. Is utterly shite my dear - I have no words of wisdom, just a manly punch on the arm and the offer of sharing a packet of chocolate biscuits!!

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laloony · 15/09/2010 20:06

Hell yeah! I'll have a choclate biscuit oh and cheers for the manly punch. jus what i need.
am not moaning, im not feeling sorry but i am jsut feeling a big sense of injustice i spose.

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DragonMamiCooksWelshCakes · 15/09/2010 20:08

Been there too, although not with that many PG colleagues.

It stinks.

And I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you. Try to stay strong & accept Saltyair's hypothetical biccies.

DragonMamiCooksWelshCakes · 15/09/2010 20:09

And by the way, YANBU.

saltyair · 15/09/2010 20:11

Yeah - know what you mean! I was in a staff briefing the other day and was the ONLY non pregnant person on a whole row of chairs!! Then someone made a really tactless comment about how I 'might still have time to get pregnant'. It would be funny if it wasn't so tragic!!