Is it out of order to think that if someone elses child falls, I should help it

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In playgroup today there was a Mother with a baby of arund 14 months...tiny little thing but walked well. She was a bit of a loudmouth...shreiking everytime a minor thng happened such as her son patting anther child who was hogging the slide. Anyway...I was sitting near my child as she played in a tunnel, her little boy was riding round in one of those cars with roofs....she was chatting sme distance away. He crashed near me and was stuck at apainful angle with his little leg trapped...everytime he tried to free himslef he hurt his leg...so he was SCREAMING....I looked at her and she was oblivious...so I held out mhand to him and he reached, grabbed it and got out. So far so good...she then looked up and saw me helping him out...RAN over and said "He's ok..hes ok I've got him!" in a snappy manner ...what do you think? Should have left him yelling in pain whilst I walked the length of the room to alert her?

In my experience at this playgroup, people help each other in this way...my chid fell off the slide once and another Mother comforted her as I was fetching the juice...it seems weird of this woman to be rude like this!

yes, she is weird.

YANBU
but you will know next time.

Agreed - she sounds weird!

She's a twat. I would have said "Well, he's been screaming for a bit of time already and you were so absorbed in your chat you didn't hear him."

Ungrateful harpy.

Of course you should help any child that is in distress. Ignore the mother when she behaves like that. She is just embarrassed at her own negligence and is displacing her own self directed aggression. She also lacks interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence but there is not much you can do about that apart from continuing to be a normal, kind person yourself. Don't take it personally.

She's a twat.

Waht a stupid cow she was

Lol! Glad I'm not an interfering baggage...I thought I might be for a moment there!

I've always been very grateful if someone has helped my DS if he's injured himself. However, I've been on the other end when helping a stranger's injured DC and they treat you like you've tried to abduct them. It makes you feel like a right div when actually they should feel like the div for having zero manners.

Of course you help a child. His mother should take more notice of him after all that's what mothers are for.

Of course you did the right thing, she was just feeling guilty.

I would have just said 'Hmm, I could see that '

YANBU. Can't understand her at all. I would be more than happy for another mother to help if I was unable to for a moment. Crazy lady.

YANBU. She sounds a bit odd.

she was snappy because she felt guilty and inadequate.

She is an idiot. At our group, no mum would think twice about helping out an injured or crying child if the mother didn't notice. The mother who didn't notice would also say thank you to the person who had noticed.

Agree with what Hairy said.

Of course you should help-ignore her.

She is a freak!

I always worry about this! People can be so funny with their kids. I think she was probably embarrassed that she was too busy chatting to notice what was going on! You did the right thing imo.

What an ungrateful response - probably embarrassment like nannylocal said.

I had a 'should I?' moment last week at my niece's party - a 5 year old little girl was in the loo and had got herself into a right pickle with her knickers/jeans/belt.

My minx needed the loo badly so I said 'do you want some help sweetheart' and she did. I helped her and mine got to wee - well giggle at me and NOT wee to be exact.

I would have been quite devastated if the mum had sniped at me for helping.

Good on you for helping out, the kid will appreciate it, even if the mum didn't.

x

very odd

YANBU; I agree with Conflicted, the mother was embarrassed about her negilgence.

You did the right thing in helping her DC.