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To put notes in my ds's lunchbox?

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Onestonetogo · 14/09/2010 22:43

DS is in year 1 and this week is having packed lunches. I have started to insert hand-written noted inside the lunchbox for him to read ("Hope you enjoy your lunch" "Have a lovely day at school" "Kisses from mummy"). I think it's sweet and can help him with his reading.
But, now that I started it, do I continue to do it every day? Will the teachers/staff think it's over the top? Too "pass-the-bucket"? Could he feel "different" in any way because his friends don't get notes and he does?

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BeerTricksPotter · 15/09/2010 09:12

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brassband · 15/09/2010 09:17

Sorry but I disagree, it just seems so needy!Can't you let your child go and enjoy school on his own without having the need toremotely kiss him every lunchtime.And you knowit will end up with your kid getting teased- evn in Y1!

lazarusb · 15/09/2010 09:32

My dd is year 6 and asked me last night to put a note in her lunch box again as it brightens up her day :)

diddl · 15/09/2010 09:39

I agree with brassband

I think only humour or reminders of something that needs doing tbh.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 15/09/2010 10:05

I stand by my assertation that it is spew worthy. I worked with a woman whose husband put ridiculous motivational notes in her lunch box. She was 40 odd and very needy.

ChippingIn · 15/09/2010 10:15

Well, it just goes to show, one mans spew is another mans treasure!

Ignore all the grumpies, it's a lovely thing to do Grin

LouMacca · 15/09/2010 10:47

trumpton Awww, that is so sweet Smile

I put notes in my DCs lunch boxes when they were in infants (usually one or two a term) Some of the other Mums started to do it because their DCs went home and said they wanted one too! I wouldn't dare now that they're in Juniors!!

Tippychoocks · 15/09/2010 10:51

I don't do notes - though I might on a birthday - but I do have little tubs for everything and a napkin which may also result in some embarrassment later I imagine.

But I am too smugly Green for clingfilm and kitchen roll so the napkin stays Grin

brassband · 15/09/2010 10:54

No plastic tubs I hope Tippychoocks? Wink Smile

Tippychoocks · 15/09/2010 10:55

Hah Brassband, recycled plastic. There is no end to my smuggery Grin

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comtessa · 15/09/2010 11:04

My mum did this when I was 16 for my GCSEs. No embarrassment at all, especially as there was surprise chocolate in my lunchbox too. :)

proudnglad · 15/09/2010 11:05

Bit cringerama and he might get ribbed. It's sweet and I know you want to shower him with love 24/7 but there are plenty of things you will have to let go of as he gets older, like kisses at the school gate etc. That's life!

lazarusb · 15/09/2010 13:43

I agree that it should stop if they are embarrassed or teased about it, but if they like it, why not? They are children for such a short time...they have all teenage years to be embarrassed by your very existence...Grin

mrsruffallo · 15/09/2010 13:45

I did this when DD was having a hard time at school. I slipped a not in her pocket reminding her how wonderful she is and how much I love her
She's happy now and I don't do it anymore, although I may do it tomorrow now.....

coatgate · 15/09/2010 13:47

I am a shite mother. I do not do this.......... must start.

domesticsluttery · 15/09/2010 13:51

I am an even more shite mother... my DC have school dinners, and I am 99.9% sure that the dinner ladies don't pop notes onto the sides of their plates!

KickArseQueen · 15/09/2010 13:57

domestic, my dd has school dinneres too, maybe we could ask for fortune cookies to be put on the side of the plate???Grin

Blu · 15/09/2010 14:01

Ever since DS could read I have considered that his school time is his time, and I would be interfering.

It's one of those things that sounds more for the benefit of the mother ('don't forget Meeeeee while you're having fun with new friends and having new experiences at school, here I am, in your luncbox...') than the child, but I can see that I am in the minority here and probably a hard-hearted cynical bat.

mmmperuna · 15/09/2010 14:06

Cloudydays you just made me well up - DS has school dinners and DD often comes home but next time I do prep them anything then I think I'll put a wee note in

perfumedlife · 15/09/2010 14:17

Blush Ds has school lunch so i put a note in his little 'old pensioner' purse with the money, sometimes a funny face, sometimes a joke.

The thought of his little hands rattling in the purse for coins fills me up Blush

I know its too much, can't help it.Smile

BitOfFun · 15/09/2010 14:18

Most kids can sort their own packed lunch out once they are about eight anyway. I think it's definitely more about the mother than the child- I totally agree with Blu.

perfumedlife · 15/09/2010 14:19

cloudydays, you made my heart jump too.

My mum and dad did this too. I still have dad's note telling me he wanted to carry me around in his top pocker, all over the world Blush

perfumedlife · 15/09/2010 14:20

sorry, pocket even.

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