to think men get an easy ride in the fidelity stakes

[thefruitwhisperer]

I hate that when a woman makes the decision to take back her husband after infidelity, most times, her inclination is to blame the woman and act like her man has been stolen. As if men were just expensive handbags left unguarded just waiting to be poached! With phrases such as 'we are unbreakable', 'no one can split us up' and the like.

Its not just another woman trying to 'break' you... your own husband has tried to break you! All this bravado just detracks from the mans involvement and the woman is left with the stigma.

Case in point : Coleen Rooney. What a dick
head.

I agree

although I did snurk at the use of the term "easy ride" in a thread about fidelity!

I do think although both parties are not responsable for the infidelity there must be something wrong with the relationship for it to occur.

[shudders at the thought of what a horrible ride Wayne Rooney would be]

I dont get the whole Coleen / Jon Terry's wife etc etc thing at all. Your husband is the one who married you, who made vows to you and if he sleeps with someone else it's his decision, no matter how many women make themselves available to him.

I would be heartbroken if DH ever betrayed me like that and it would be his penis I would surgically remove without anasthetic!

Women who sleep with men they know are married are guilty of making a bad decision, not betrayal.

They do OP, and not just in the fidelity stakes.

e.g. Mum is away for some reason leaving dad with kids. Question: How many calls does the dad recieve to see "if he's OK and needs any help"?

I don't blame Coleen Rooney or think she's a dickhead for her words or actions as she hasn't done anything wrong.

Potatohead Wayne however...

Its the pride in the relationship and the decision to return afterwards that I particularly hate. As if to take him back afterwards somehow shows your marriage is 'strong'

How very very foolish. I personally think coleens let herself down. She was pregnant. Wheres her pride.

Also, I've read more than once that football clubs REALLY push for "couples" to stay together. They encourage childhood sweethearts to stay together through thick and thin as the wife/gf caters for footballers every need (as if he were a child)! It's good for getting the best performance out of the player on the pitch.

(bugs the sh*t out of me, I'm not sure the feminis in me believes it to be true, but it does make sense)

Oh is Coleen staying with the cheating rat then?

Not always. Some friends of ours had an affair within a mutual group of friends. The affair ended and while the female is stayiing with her husband and seems completely blase about the whole situation the male has been cold-shouldered by the majority of his friends and has practically disappeared from the face of the earth.

I am a fan of those who blame the wife for her husband's affair. Men rarely seem to accept blame or, in some cases, any responsibility whatsoever, for their own actions. Their wives have enough to deal with as it is without being blamed on top.

I think the first time a partner cheats, its not the innocent party's fault at all. The second time however... if you stayed and you knew what they were like, you pretty much did it to yourself.

Coleens gone back and a source quotes her as saying 'wayne will never find anyone he can trust like me'

I translate that as, she might have shagged my husband but he comes home to me [gloat]

How very old fashioned and needy.

And I know a few women in real life who feel this way too.

She's a silly cow and he's an over indulged, over paid tosspot, thick as pigshit too, for not realising he would be outed by his paid "company" .