To not want the Wedding evening do in a hall?.

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I just dont sorry,waited along time to get married trying to plan within a budget, would like a civil ceremony and a meal for 25-50,found somwehere nice The Winchester Du Vin but then we may have others wanting to come in the evening,they can only accomadate 50 at this venue,we could keep it at that,and hire a band and stay their for the evening

Or we can find a hall in Winchester so we can cater our own buffett,which im not that keen on?and all the pepole we could not afford to come could come in the evening,what would you do aibu.

We had registry office, then restaurant meal for the people there - mostly family and close friends, about 30 in all.

Then that night we had a party for all and sundry in a bar/pub place which had a room just for these occasions. So nicer than a church hall type thing, but not too expensive either - we did pay extra for them to provide nibbles, though. Would that work?

Failing that, you're just going to have to get tough and tell the others who want to come that it's a small wedding and sorry, they can't. I'm sure they'd understand.

Have what you want, it's your wedding! It's really not up to other people, just because they might want to come. If you find you have to exclude lots of people that you would really liketo be there, then a hall might be a good option. But if you write your list of up to 50 guests and see all the people that are really important to you and your dp, then go for the restaurant.

"we may have others wanting to come in the evening"

??

Isn´t it up to you who you invite?

We had everyone to the reception but didn´t have an evening do.

I would say the most important thing is who is there, not where it is.

If you have people you would like to invite but can't in the stunning venue I would say go for the hall.

We hired a hall for our wedding and got our own caterer in who did amazing food, and the saving on the venue allowed the guest list to be increased.

what splashy said - its WHO is there to share it not WHERE that matters

but you have to do what you want, considering finances and size of guest list

I don't understand this business about other people who might want to be there? Either YOU want them there or you don't. It's not up to them.

Have the reception you want, with the people you want.

If they aren't important enough to invite them to the wedding itself why invite them to a separate do in the evening at all.

Our reception was a party in a school hall; we got in a paying bar, hired a jazz band, a friend DJ'd and a lovely time was had by all. Our wedding was in the morning, our parents, grandparents, siblings, bridesmaids & best man joined us for lunch in a local restaurant and the party wasn't until 7pm (so well after tea would be needed).

The people are what matter, not the place.