To think people who don't like suprises are a bit weird?

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Such as dh, FIL and MIL- they all hate suprises, for their birthdays, even if I've gotten them something brilliant that I know they have wanted/wanted to do for a long time, they all gang up on me until I tell what the present is a week before the birthday.
The ILs also issue lists at Xmas of things they want, in order to avoid suprises!

I thought ace suprises were always the best bits of Xmas and birthdays, one of my favourite memories is my sister hyperventilating on Xmas (long time ago!) day because father Christmas bought her a tamagotchi!

I really don't get it?aibu to think it's a bit kill-joy and controlling?

Yes, it is a bit kill-joy and controlling.
I hate suprises, but I have to know everything and am quite controlling anyway.
I just hate not knowing

DH hates it - but he is really very fussy with possessions, and it is not possible to guess what he wants. After 17 years of knowing him, I need a list

It depends. Some people don't like surprises because they are shy and don't enjot being put on the spot while you stare at them waiting for a reaction. They might be worried that they won't like the surprise and will have to fake pleasure in front of a room full of people all staring.

I can feel my hands getting clammy just thinking about it. [shudder].

I think it's controlling to want to surprise people who don't want to be surprised.

Just don't tell them what you've bought next time! Although I have to say that I think lists are a v good idea - they save people spending lots of money on things they think you'll like but that actually you just stuff in a cupboard/regift/give to charity...

Oh dear, dammit aibu!

Oh no suprise parties ARE horrendous

The whole point of gifts is that they please the recipient rather than the giver. If they don't like surprises, rather than ridiculing your family on a message board, just don't surprise them... seems obvious to me

YABU

I hate surprises. But I am a bit weird. So imo YANBU

Ouch chil!!! I'm not ridiculing them, I love them! Most posts on here are about family so you should probably relax a little bit

i dont mind surprises i just hate the expectation that goes with it. the forced smiles and wow thats so amazing! its almost like you have to convince everyone how much you love it. Im just not very enthusiatic about things, even if i do really love it.

YANBU and I think they are very rude to demand to know what you've got them and to issue lists- how very presumptuous!

I hate surprises and it is about being put on the spot for me, and being the centre of attention in any way. I wouldn't nag someone to tell me though, I'd just hope they wouldn't do it in the first place!

My brother has often 'surprised' my SIL with trips away - I've told him perhaps she'd like to know in advance so she can get her hair done, or work out what clothes to take, have time to get excited etc. No, apparently she loves surprises.

On their honeymoon she didn't know where she was going IN THE PLANE until he opened a ringbinder with the full details of their amazing holiday.

He's an irremediable control freak.

I don't demand to know what people have got for me but I hate the whole "oooh I've got you such a great present you'll never guess" Build-up, and then me having to mentally prepare myself to look surprised and delighted, even if I'm not.

Surprises for me just = pressure. I hate them.

Surprise parties are my idea of hell on earth. All my family and friends have been primed for years to know that I would not appreciate one. At all.

So.... YABU

YABU.

Some surprises are crap, and others are just embarrassing for the recipient, despite how much 'fun' the donor thinks it might be.

YABU
I don't like complete suprises at all. I tend to find it quite pointless not to ask people what they want for birthday's/xmas as if you ask you are definitely getting something that they like! Thats why lists are so useful, you can still pick something so it is sort of a suprise but it is definitely something that is wanted.
As for suprise parties, they are my idea of hell. I'd severely maim be very angry at someone who put me on the spot like that.

YABU

YABU.
I am terrible at acting pleased, even when I am! I hate being surprised and if the surprise isn't what I'd wanted/expected it would show in my face, making both me and the giver very uncomfortable and disappointed.