Am I being a moany bitch?

[thefruitwhisperer]

This weekend all I wanted to do was relax, perhaps go to the cinema, make us a nice dinner on sunday, put some extra elastic in my work trousers (Im 7 months pregnant), sort out some bits in the flat before baby comes and perhaps finish glossing the hall (not much left)

So we saw a film on friday, my choice for once, as I never normally choose - a chick flick - but DP moaned about it all night, kept looking at his watch all the way through and theatrically yawning. His friend came along too...

Saturday night we went to said friends dads 60th birthday party. Wasnt a bad night but I was stood all night and SPD played up because of it and I got about 4 hours sleep last night. And of course Id much rather be at home doing the things Ive listed above.

This morning I took DP to work for 9, am now tidying the flat, doing the weeks backlogue of washing, sorting out the bathroom, then picking DP up at 4.30.

And now his aunt who I dont like anyway has called and said we HAVE to come over as Ive not been introduced properly to the family (we've been together nearly 2 years) TONIGHT. Or ELSE. And DP has agreed to go. Straight after I pick him up at 4.30. And shes done dinner without asking if we want any and if we dont eat it she'll be offended(a pasta dish I dont even like). The lasagne stuff I bought this morning for tonight will have to wait till tmw and I for once wanted a nice din dins. (Sometimes dont get home till 7pm so we eat quick to prepare food in the week)

I dont want to go to her house. I want to get my shit together for work tomorrow. (inc making my trousers bigger)

Has my weekend been highjacked or am I being a moany bitch about this?

It doesn't sound like the whole weekend has been hijacked? Just tonight and the party yesterday I presume you mean?

I feel like friday was crapped on because DP made a show of hating the film. And today because I had the whole day planned out and now it needs to be rearranged to fit everything in before we spend 4 hours at DP's aunts.

I have said something to DP. Many times. And this is what worries me because its always the same.

you mean he doesn't care how you feel enough to listen and take you seriously?

He thinks I hate dont like his family. Which isnt true, I just dont like being called up at 2.30 and told to come round in 2 hours and Ive got dinner made for me already, when I already had my own plans made.

My family is quite different. We see less of each other, but we dont bitch about each other. His do and I dont get it.

As far as the film goes, Im still really pissed off

I know shes going to bitch about us if we dont go. Whats that about???

I dont actually care, but he wants to please them.

And Ive already met them! About 30 times (no exaggeration!) If Id known she was going to ask us, I would have skipped last night!

"I know shes going to bitch about us if we dont go." Look on the bright side, if she's bitching about you she's leaving some other poor b*gger alone.

Seriously though, just because she says you HAVE to go, you don't. Especially for such a crap reason and at such short notice.

I feel terrible for moaning about him now. DP has called and said hes told her no, we can go on wednesday.

I am SO pleased that I can tidy up without a 4.30 deadline! How effing sad is that!

Gawd what I wouldn't give to go to someone's houseand be cooked for
you don't need to stay late and can do your sewing later

Please go, Bigchris? She seems to think we've never been introduced despite meeting me 30 times over 2 years. Perhaps she wont notice the difference.

ps the dinner is vile. its macaroni cheese

his family sound very controlling, will they expect you to drop everything and order you round once you have the baby?

i would tell them to fuck the fuck off

They are controlling in my view, but only because my family arent the same. The difference is so huge! They see each other all the time (we see his immediate family perhaps 3 times a week, where as my mums happy with a cup of tea perhaps once a week)

When the baby comes, its my way or the highway. Hes due at christmas and Im not leaving the house until Im ready. End of.

Sounds like XH's family. His Nan called me at 10pm when dd was 3weeks old (had a section and couldn't drive). Demanded I went to the chip shop for her before it closed. This shop was about 50/60 yards from her front door and I lived 2miles away. YANBU.

As long as your are clear to DH, then you shouldn't have problems in future. 2 hours notice is ridiculous, no-one except DH's aunt is generally available at 2 hours notice. Don't let them walk all over you and you'll be fine.