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mumof2beautifulgirls · 12/09/2010 14:16

hi i have been with my oh for 10years all has been great a few bumps, but thats normal! the thing is i am very low on selfesteam, and confidance! he is pretty much the same, but more out going than me! i dont like poeple lol always see the worst and never trust people!he is very popular and well liked, we both love each other, get on well very alike! the thing is i am always worried he is cheating, he is quite flirty, all our female friends love him. have had to stop talking to some in the past as they got ott with him! he loves me and would never do it to me as he knows how it feels! but that dont stop me checking up on him. never found anything other than a few flirty messages. we both go on websites that are a wee bit naughty lol i stoped as it wasnt helping me feel better about myself! i dont mind him still going on and talking to women as long as its not anyone we both know! well last week i was being very nosey and checked his facebook and he was having a dirty conversation with a female friend of ours i was livid! he said it just happened, he never ment for it to! she was drunk, he was away at work. i text her and she was very sorry and said sorry as did he, we have sorted it out! but i cant help feeling i dont know? he has promist it will never happen again, but i'm worried sick it will? help wwyd?

TIA x

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Dione · 12/09/2010 14:20

I would go to my GP and get a referal to a counsellor. You severe self esteem problems and are living a contradictory lifestyle which is doing nothing for your state of mind or marriage.

I think you need to sort out your own head before you will be able to tackle the problems with your marriage.

cheesesarnie · 12/09/2010 14:21

depends what you mean by dirty conversation?and depends what you mean by as long as its not anyone you dont both know-what does he say to them?

dignified · 12/09/2010 14:28

If you are worried about him cheating why do you allow him talking to other women like this , it cant feel good for you. Why does he need to talk to other women ? I couldnt put up with that im afraid.

PerpetuallyAnnoyedByHeadlice · 12/09/2010 15:16

I would not tolerate this - its still cheating in my book even if its just dirty word on a screen

you would be better off without him - you are worth MORE than that, you are worth LOYALTY and HONESTY - it does not sound like he respects you. It also does not sound like you feel you have the RIGHT to be respected.

gingerwig · 12/09/2010 16:07

I dont know how you can go through life checking up on your partner and I dont know how he can put up with all the checking up.
I'm out.

tholeon · 12/09/2010 16:58

hi

perhaps try posting this on the relationships board where you might get more advice?

And maybe see if you can get an appointment at Relate for relationship counselling?

It does sound like the dodgy websites are a bad idea, all round.

best of luck.

serafinacat · 12/09/2010 23:54

Um - warning bells!! Sounds like your instincts are right to not trust him. Trust your instincts instead, they have no ulterior motives.

Theflatulentfairy · 13/09/2010 00:09

The dirty conversation is a seperate issue imo - you need to stop checking up on him!

You need to get help before you drive him away or drive yourself crazy thinking hes cheating all the time

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