to post on my Brothers FB

[bottyburpthebarbarian]

"Did you get the card and money I sent for your child's birthday"

My brother was over on holiday at the start of the summer.

We got on fine while he was here - his wife decided I was her new "big sister".

(There is a backstory but it is long a boring)

Anyway, all was fine.

Today is his child's birthday.

I sent a card with a cheque in it on Wednesday first class.

Have had no acknowledgement of the card - no text, phone call or anything

(This is the same brother who I phoned and texted to tell him I had been accepted to uni and got no acknowledgement)

So, AIBU to post "did you get the card I sent" on his FB wall?

Hecate - not a problem for me, that would suit me fine!! Was trying to make an effort - really because it was what my mother wanted.

the mother who screamed down the phone at you?

Hecate what happened in Cleethorpes?

Yes

And who has yet to say well done on getting into uni

And who offers "advice" that isn't advice

What is wrong with the communication between you and your brother that you ask us rather than him? FGS, grow up and talk to him.

my son went round yelling

"naked."
"I'm naked"
"help me, I'm Naked"
"I'm naked"

Which was not quite so bad when people could see him, but quite startling for those who could just hear the cries of a naked little boy.

He wasn't actually naked btw

It was all rather embarrassing. I can still remember the Looks.

and she's still important in your life because?...

Ski - he won't talk to me, I have tried and tried to phone him

He hasn't spoken to me since July. I have phoned a few times and left messages,just chatty

Hecate - I know, but my dad is gr8

Have read the whole thread, still can't really see the issue. If they are the type of people who don't say thanks, don't give again. If you are genuinely worried about whether they have received the cheque, phone tomorrow or send a private facebook message. Don't make it into such a big deal.

YABU.

Oh right. I have no time for wasters, whether they are family or not.

The sister I mentioned in my previous post only got a present as I didn't the year before and I got shit off my dad, which originally came from her mum (half sister). Xmas I gave her a present and she said nothing. I pointedly asked her if she liked it and she just went "yeah" I sat and looked at her. My nan said "I think Detective is waiting for a thank you" my sister looked at me and went "oh, thanks" in the most unenthusiastic voice I have ever heard. I gave her a nice birthday present thinking that things would be different as I had pointed out the no thank you thing to my dad. Again I got nothing back. I mentioned it to my dad and he told me she said she had said thank you. I told him she was lying.

All I'm asking for is a text or facebook message, not a handmade, handwritten letter. I never even got a card when I had DS. This was after years of me running around helping and stuff.

I can't be bothered with it anymore and don't give a toss if anyone else in the family has a problem with it. I would rather spend my money on people who deserve it. I forgot to get my other sister something last year as she was away with the Navy on her birthday. Did she sulk etc? No, she got me a very nice bottle of perfume for my birthday. Other sister, I get nothing now for not bothering for one year.

Don't bother with feckless family members. Can't you get your brother on chat on facebook if he is on there?