To suck my tummy in

[Believeitornot]

I'm a mum to a gorgeous 11 month old. I'm generally fitting into my clothes although the boobs are a bit bigger now. I've also got a bit of a tummy - mainly caused by slack stomach muscles and too many biscuits.

I'm visiting the ILs today and they've got fat issues - ie they don't like fat people. They think nothing of commenting on how much I ate when pregnant and recovering from a birth where I lost a litre of blood. FIL has also made comments on girlfriends who are a bit plump and on the younger granddaughters' eating habits.

When I visit I'll spend the whole time sucking in my tum as I don't want the same comments. I'm not confident to either challenge their views or let it all hang. I know I'm BU but see no other way until I shift the flab. What do you think?

if only I could!

Why not start to cry, really loudly? They sound like they need to know how much they upset you and it doesn't sound like anything you say will make a difference.

Oh let it all hang out. How dare they make you feel so uncomfortable, horrible fuckers. Either try and make it into a joke so as to take away the shock factor that they hope for when they insult, or just tell them straight that they're being bloody rude and you'd appreciate if they kept their nasty small minded thoughts to themselves. Someone needs to give them some back or they'll just keep on.

They don´t deserve to see your baby.

I think if they say anything you should tell them that they are v rude, and also get your dh to stick up for you. Perhaps they dont realise quite how rude it is, but it is really v v rude. My fil is a bit like this and I have just told him straight that he is rude and out of order, for eg when I just had ds1 they came the next day to visit first thing he says so when are you going to lose weight after having the baby, fgs, whats it to do with him!
But if you want to suck your tummy in for your own benefit not for theirs, you can get these spanx higher power knickers which are quite good (gok wan recommended..) they are not uncomfy or anything, i find them good
BUT thats besides the point as they do need to learn that they are rude, and put a stop to such comments/mind their own business etc

They sound unpleasant.

I wouldn't want to be around them.

My Dad is like this, and I find it v upsetting. I wish I knew how to deal with it!!