i am and you are going to tell me i am in no uncertain terms but i dont wanna go..

[laloony]

to a christening in a few weeks

sigh

Well that's a woeful lack of information.

Why don't you want to go?

why don't you wanna go you loon?

a chance to wear a naice frock and shoes, please no fascinator mind then noms at someone else's expense

what's not to like

YANBU

I hate them, not being a christian type person.

Do you need to go, is it family or close friend?

Lets play guess the reason...

Because you have nothing to wear

Because you mil is sociopathic

Because it's in a church and you turn purple the second you step over the threshold.....

I hate them too. Avoid at all costs!!

pretentiousness of it all.

dont do people, dont do churches,
dont do dressing up.

got a kid who cant sit still...who the people whos christening it is dont like or dont tolerate very well.

well, infact must say thst they now have a 4 year old who is a handful (as well as new baby) and so its come back to bite them in the arse.
they said " if THAT were ours, it would be burried in the garden by now" cos of tantrum aged 3 or some such like.

they are pretentious and think they are posh, they nice but not posh

am cowbag loony

YANBU if you don't want to go, make your excuses.
(unless you are a parent of the child, or a godparent, in which case YABU)

sorry they not keen on my boy.

im god mother to their boy who is delishouosly normal, noisy, loud, wild and funny, he is my gorgeousness god son

If they called my child 'that' i would be on non speaks with these nice, Christian types anyway.

Charming

not god mum to other new one tho.

friends of years and years.

they posh, maybe venison on menu.

wtf do you do with venison?

would prefer egg butties.

NOT reason im not wanting to go, food is food and am i fat bird so will eat anything really

oooh buffet, forgot about that, ooh will go for buffet

got nowt to wear, dont want my boy there, dh & her dh are bezzy mates been bezzy mates since they were 4. now nearly 40. long time

should go

but dont wanna

YANBU

Simply send a regret in the post (don't bother with an excuse) and wish them a lovely day.

If I had a friend who was being that unsupportive and nasty over my 3 yr olds tantrum then, well, I doubt whether I would be much interested in supporting them at their childs christening, either.

I wouldn't be friends with someone who commented on my child the way they have.

I loathe christenings and turned one down a few years ago, based on the fact that I am an atheist and the service was held in a normal sunday church service. Friend was fine about it.

YANBU, make an excuse. Can't stand people who pretend to be posh when they really aren't. My aunt is the same. It makes me laugh.

Some of your complaints seems trivial and like you are inventing reasons to not want to go:

• WTF do you do with venison? You eat it like any other meat. No big deal.

• Siblings are not supposed to have the same godparents, so of course you're not godmother to the other one.

However, you need to decide if they are nice and your friends (in which case, go) or if they are horrible pretentious people who are nasty to you and your DS (in which case don't go).

Either way, please stop using the phrase 'bezzy mates' if you are nearly 40.

hehehehe bezzy mates bezzy mates bezzy mates!

well they are.

hm, not wanting to be god mother, but was queerying whether or it it would be expected of me to be there as i am God mother to little lad?
What do you mean "OF COURSE YOu wont be God mother to sibling"?? I AM god mother to another families children, and didnt think anything of it, was just really really chuffed and overwhelmed and touched to be asked again.
Never saw that rule any where?

On reflection, i have decided to decline the offer. I shall do it gracefully. They wont mind i am sure. Probably wont even notice.

Thanks every one x

So you are godmother to the older child who will be there?

Would you not want to see him?

so, you don;'t like them but are godmother to their son?
and you can't be arsed to go to the christening of their other child because you don't like them and they may serve venison?

bodes really well for your godson's future doesn't it

Just stick something clean on and go! If you're godson to their eldest child it's a little hypocritical to say you don't want to go to this christening.

Go, spoil your godson with love and attention so he doesn't feel left out and just grin and bear it.

OP-it´s not about you & what you want.

Isn´t it about being there with your godson?

If you don't do churches and think they people are so awful, why the hell are you godmother to their other son?

Ah fuck it, lives to short to do something you don't want to do. Pretend to be ill on the day so your OH can take your boy and you get a lovely lie in.