other peoples children!!!!!

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have name changed for this as iam aware iam probably being really unreasonable!
i have offered to look after my friends dd today for a favor in return for her looking after mine(which iam aware was really good of her)the trouble is her dd is MUCH harder work than mine!
she has not left me alone since the minute she has been dropped off,repeatedly wound up my own dd and argued with her and generally been massivly attention seeking and mis behaving,this child does not get much attention at her own home so i do feel sorry for her,BUT cannot help feeling massively annoyed and harrarssed!
aibu and grumpy?or would you feel the same
(they are both 5 by the way)

Looking after others' children is often a pain.
But none of us know what OUR children are like in other people's houses. I would be mortified if my kids behaved as badly as some of our young visitors - but for all I know they might !

of course your child is easier... FOR YOU! because she is your child

please don't presume that the lovely little girl you have at home is the same when someone else is looking after her

also, other people's kids are harder simply because you don't know them, you don't know all their little foibles and because they may be uneasy being in someone else's hosue

My DS is 5 and I'm just getting used to dealing with this now - some other people's DC are a RIGHT PAIN. I know mine is not always easy either though.

However some of them do shock me - the ones who deliberately trash and break everything or repeatedly lie to your face to get attention.

the kid I know who trashes everything is a little darling at home where he has very strict parents. I cant stand it when he comes to visit.
His parents honestly believe he is an angel

I have one child and so when she is looked after it's just one more so not too much different than the 3 or so others have but when i return the favour I have to have all their 3 which is an enormous strain especially if there is a baby or toddler in the mix. I have a 6yr old DD who is fairly undemanding (or so I am always told by her friends parents), am i being unreasonbale to just want the child who is my daughters age?

I have had some right horrors round here who haven't been invited back BTW - one of which pee'd against the trampoline like a dog - the loo was about 5 ft away in the house!!! Also had my sofa scribbled on with felt tip grrrh - only noticed when child left so didn't feel I could mentionm it to the parent.

I find getting out of the house is the best way - the park or ball pit so they can trash somewhere else!

thisisyesterday,i do know this child very well,so well in fact iam an idiot to not realise that this would happen!
i honestly dont think my dd is perfect but people have commented on how well behaved she is such as teachers and other parents,although obviously she does have off days too.

YANBU

I regularly have a PITA to look after. I suck it up though as I like getting the favour returned.

I think I am scary mum, none of my DD's friends misbehave around me. Actually one did, she was taken to her mums place of work immediately.

Some kids have "little foibles", some kids are AWFUL.

And of course it's so difficult to reprimand other people's children so you sort of stand there with a rictus grin as they trash your house/give you lip.

Hell is other people
Purgatory is other people's children

Cant remember who said it (Joan Rivers maybe?) but they had a point.