"You're doing it wrong" wwyd?

[Kushanku]

Your DH is making dinner and asks you to make the mash whilst he pops to shop. When he gets back he first complains that the potatoes are not peeled properly, you explain that since he broke the potatoe peeler, its difficult. He moans and says we'll have to make do. Once boiled, you drain the water, add some milk - but at this point DH stops you and tells you you're doing it wrong with a "No! no! no! that's all wrong, you put the butter in first!" comment. You say "this is how I do it". He says "but its wrong! you don't do it like that". You say "I do". He says "but its wrong!"
So you say "do you want to take over?" and he says "yes!".

He then takes over the mash.

AIBU to find this quite arse-hole ish behaviour?

He wants to do it, let him get on with it

He did this in front of the kids though which made me feel rather small.

It sounds like he isn't a very confident cook. My DH is a bit like this - he'll stick to recipes by the letter and doesn't dare deviate.

Solution: make him cook more often :P

it is a bit yes. i'd have jusst said you do it then and walked out

Serve up Smash next time.

Oh just let him get on with it and elave him the washing up too. And don't help him next time.

Tbh the conversation wouldn't have gone on that long for me. It would have been 'you're doing it all wrong.' 'Fine you do it'

Really arsey behaviour, I would be most pissed off.

He sounds like an arse, even when someone I know makes tea wrong and puts the milk in first I wouldn't complain in anything other than a jokey way.

I would just say 'is it life threatening?' and tell him to stop being so ridiculous.

yes it's arsey

I don't peel spuds for mash - I prefer the taste with the skins on tbh... he'd hate the way I make it!

But you were doing it wrong

It depends. Is he always saying you do things "wrong" or just strangely fussy about mash?

This is why Dh cooks most the evening meals. He used to come in from work and every time shift veggies around in the steamer, turn this up, turn that down, do this, do that: Sod it. He cooks tea now as his daily family chore.

Not that I'm guiltless on the interfering front... I often turn the meat down because I like it less well-cooked than he is, but I try to have no involvement whatsoever.

LEAVE HIM!

Haha CerealOffender

I'm going to pre-empt whoever says"Kill him" and say: " Kill him!"

My DH would not have dared. If he cooks it takes about 20 times longer than if I do it, he is the least inventive man I've met, he even weighs onions. He is great a curry from scratch though to give him his due.
OP, you were doing the potatoes wrongly, it is butter (and never marge) first then the warmed milk.

I think he was being a bit of an arse to go on about something so inconsequential. I am very guilty of picking my husband up on his strange methods in the kitchen though, so sometimes I'm on the arsing side of the conversation.

Don't bother standing your ground next time. Chuck the masher in his direction and let him do things his own way.

You ought to try being married to a chef? He is not allowed into the kitchen whilst I cook because, despite his constant interference, he claims to like the taste of my food. Although, now you mention it CerealOffender it would probably be more sensible to leave him.

It sounds to me like you successfully got out of making the mash. Well done

(Butter does go in first though)

you children will grow up thinking this is the correct way to make mash you have to break the cycle.

shakes fist at TeamEdward

is that why we put milk into the teapot?

YANBU.

Dh is just the same. He does the cooking now because I can't be arsed to listen to him going on about how I am doing it wrong.

uh, butter always goes in first.

hmmmmm, mashed potato.