to be a bit annoyed with ds's teacher?

[sorebore]

ds started school last week and I feel his teacher is being a bit insensitive for a couple of reasons....firstly on the first morning she said - oh there is another johnny in the class, so we'll call him johnny x (ie other boy's sirname initial) and you can be just johnny..I thought this was a bit insensitive to the other little boy.
Secondly, most of the kids already know each other from nursery, and my ds doesn't know any of them, so he told me on the first, second and then third day that he was playing alone at break-time. I mentioned this to the teacher on day 4 and when he came home he told me that she said 'whoever wants to play with johnny please put up your hand'...he is very precise so I don't think he got it wrong..he was a bit embarrassed about it.
Anyway, AIBU to think this was a bit insensitive and WIBU to say something to her about it?

YANBU to be cross about the hand up thing, but I would be cautious about charging back in just yet. See if your son settles, and if possible hang around the school gates to find a friendly mum or two from his class so you can arrange a play date. Most of them will be sympathetic.

If he is not settling in and making friends then I would not necessarily mention how she managed things before, just express your concerns and ask if he can be partnered with a child who can be encouraged to play with him outside of lesson time too.

As for the name thing - let it slide. My son had two Joshuas in his first class, who were quickly known as the Good Joshua and the Bad Joshua by all the children

ok thanks, just have to wait and see how he gets on in the next little while..its heart rending

sorebore find out if they have a 'Friendship bench' lots of schools do, it's a place the kids can go and sit if they feel sad/lonely/fedup and the other kids can go and talk to them, see if they want to play with them... sounds hidious as an adult, but it seems to work for the kids.

Reception teachers can seem insentive to first time Mums, but honestly, they've been there, done that and I bet within no time you'll end up thinking she's brilliant :)

DS will be fine x

Oh friendship benches are great. I watched my DD on her infant school one, every couple of minutes someone would come up to invite her and the others there to play. My DD waited until she got an offer she wanted (she'd rather sit on the bench than join in just any game). Also it seems to be used quite fluidly, so not just someone sitting there at the start of break, but a constant flow of children going there as a game finishes, and then leaving for another game. (Kids are fascinating.)

Ask him if there's a child he would like to play with and invite that child and mum, as none of you know each other, to tea fast.

I think it's a bit early to worry about him playing alone.
Give it a few weeks/a month at lleast before inviting people home and making a f uss of it.
Once they all know his name and ho knows their it will all work out