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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think DH shouldn't risk dislocating his shoulder when I'm 7 months pregnant?

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 18:32

So my DH dislocated his shoulder last Christmas falling down the stairs. He used to play tennis or badminton every couple of weeks but stopped after his injury and hasn't bothered since.
Tonight he's planning to play badminton with his mate and just casually said "I've put him on warning in case he has to drive me to hospital if my shoulder pops out"!!

I've told him I'll be bloody pissed off if he dislocates his shoulder when I'm 7 months pregnant, can hardly lift DS1 any more and he still hasn't got DS1's baby clothes out of the loft despite weeks of nagging gentle reminders! If he thinks badminton will be that risky, he shouldn't play it. AIBU?

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SeaTrek · 09/09/2010 18:34

Yep, YABU

scurryfunge · 09/09/2010 18:36

YABU

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 18:46

Oh arse. 2 nil to DH. And he's going in half an hour! With a bloody smug look on his face too. Thanks ladies!

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ragged · 09/09/2010 18:47

yabu, it's very painful but it's remedied almost instantly when they pop it back in A&E.

Unless he has a chronic history of doing this, starting before he was 19yo, he is unlikely to ever do it again, btw.

DH is a chronic shoulder-dislocator, btw.

SixtyFootDoll · 09/09/2010 18:47

YABU

upahill · 09/09/2010 18:48

Def YABU!

TheFallenMadonna · 09/09/2010 18:49

Christmas? YABU.

ArseHolio · 09/09/2010 18:49

Of course YABU !

What has you being pregnant got to do with anythng ?

diddl · 09/09/2010 18:50

He´s not likely to dislocate just by playing is he?

Sorry YABU.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 09/09/2010 18:50

Much more of a risk of dislocated shoulder visiting the loft I would say.....

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 18:53

Oh OK IABU! Suppose he should get some excercise, I've been nagging gently reminding him about that for months too!

You're right ragged, and he didn't have much damage to the shoulder first time round (it was bloody painful though! TBH looked more painful than childbirth) so v unlikely he will do it again.

So why put his friend "on warning"? What a drama queen!

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 18:57

Arse, last time he dislocated his shoulder I had to spend 3 weeks helping him get dressed, tie his shoelaces, do all the cooking and cleaning and all the heavy lifting. I was happy to look after him cos he's my DH and he needed me, but I really don't fancy doing that now!

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SandStorm · 09/09/2010 19:01

Are you sure he wasn't joking? Cos that was my immediate reaction. That, or he's trying to wind you up.

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 19:07

Probably was joking. He thinks it's hilarious that I'm so unreasonable. Pah.

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thetraveller · 09/09/2010 19:18

Probably too late now, but I don't think you ABU. I've dislocated my shoulder four times. Each time it was immobilised for a good 6 weeks afterwards, with lots of physio after that (so not remedied almost instantly). Each time it was excruciatingly painful (more so than childbirth). The last time I did it whilst swimming, and was told by the doctor that the next time I could do it by lifting my arm above my head to lift off a T-shirt.

I'm sure your DH will be fine, but if it was me I wouldn't take the risk whilst you're at this stage of your pregnancy!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/09/2010 19:18

i think YANBU as well!

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 19:29

Oh thank you Traveller and Fanjo! I don't want to rain on his parade (he's gone now anyway) but I didn't think EVERYONE would think I was unreasonable!
I won't tell him about the T shirt think though, he doesn't change his clothes often enough anyway Wink

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/09/2010 19:31

My DH refused a free ticket and travel to an international Scotland game when I was 8 months pregnant! (good job as DD arrived then!)

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 20:55

Fanjo you are showing off!

Don't mean to slag off DH (realise I have implied he is selfish, overweight and smelly!) Part of the reason he hasn't bothered with racket sports this year is he always prioritises family time cos he's lovely like that.

I'll kill him if he does dislocate his shoulder mind you! There's no way I'm spending the next 6 weeks tying his shoelaces when I can't reach to tie my own. Arseholio you can come and do it for me!!!

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/09/2010 20:58

Didn't mean to show off Blush

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rodformyownback · 09/09/2010 21:00

Don't be Blush I am just Envy!

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AnyFucker · 09/09/2010 21:00

err, don't you realise that the best way of preventing a recurrence of a dislocated shoulder is to build up the muscles that support the joint

by playing sport

durrr

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/09/2010 21:01

Don't be Envy, DH has changed since then! Grin

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/09/2010 21:01

AF, you are somewhat acerbic these days!

Loshad · 09/09/2010 21:02

rod, it shouldn't redislocate if he's over 19/20 at first dislocation and he's had 6 months off. It's not as if badminton is a contact sport anyway. Think he's being a bit wussy tbh, a - re not playing again for so long and b - for getting you to dress him etc for 6 weeks post dislocation, my 16 yo has recurrent shoulder dislocation and wouldn't dream of expecting me to get him dressed or tie his shoelaces. He has dislocated his six times now, including by clapping above shoulder height !! and had it operated on for a repair 3 weeks ago. He accepted my dh's help in getting out of the bath for four nights and that was it. He has to wear a tie and shoelace type shoes for school and manages fine every morning. just need abit of inventiveness.