Am quite pissed off and this may be a bit dull - so thanks to those who bear with me.
DS1 started high school last Friday (Yr 8 he is 13), DD and DS2 went back to Middle School last Thurs DS2 moving up from First school. I started a new full time job on Mon (was working part time before). To say the least it has been a little hectic around here this week getting used to all of us having a new routine and I have had to re-organise my school run due to various kids moving schools.
I am also negotiating various hospital appts for myself this week for an illness I have been having treatment for.
DS1 is getting a lift in the morning with a friends who lives down the road who goes to same school friend dad kindly drops them off on his way to work - I am taking 4 other kids including my other two to a different school and then going straight to work. Two at middle school come back as part of school run and mum of DS1's friend has been collecting them some days and on other days he has caught the bus. She and I are waiting to see which clubs they want to do after school before we decide a regular rota/routine.
All DC's stayed at their dads last night as usual and this morning I text him asking how is DS1 getting home and if its by bus did you give him bus fare (75p 
).
To which I recieve a shitty message back telling me how I should organise myself better its not his responsibility to see how he gets home and no fucking way is he paying his bus fare on top of maintenance and why haven't I got him a bus pass (I can't afford it right now - I spent £350 on three lots of uniform, taxed my car and paid £260 for a car exhust - I am skint and bus passes are over £100 a term and I am not eligible for help with it. He then refused to drop 75p into DS1 even though he was driving past the school - I work 10 miles away, and has said you'd better make sure he has it next week because I'm not bloody paying it.
So I have had to work early (on my 4th day ) to pick him up from school.
AIBU to think (seeing as I am the parent the children live with but do not have formal custody) that it is his responsibility to check DS1 has checked he has everything he needs in the morning and as he is at a new school this includes checking he knows how he is getting home as there is no fixed routine at the moment? The poor kid could have been a bit stuck.
I am just trying to get into the groove of a new routine - not dupe him into an extra 75 bloody pence every week.