my bil has two DDs, and they always have been allowed to choose and wear what shoes they want, in what ever style. He does have the money to buy fitted shoes, but quite frankly, its not the cost, as he has spent £60 plus on boots each, but its the style for long term wear thats dreadful.
niece showed me her new school shoes, and bil mentioned his teen girls bent big toes, and that it must be caused by the shoes the girls insist on wearing.
now, i have been avoiding this subject for some time, because the toe thing is quite bad, one girl is getting a huge bump on her toe joint, which has been getting bigger, so it wont be long before her foot looks like posh spice.
its quite dramatic bent toe and lump, iyswim
however, as he brought up the subject, i mentioned that he was right, and that the main culprit was shoes, like the ones she was wearing, and that it wouldnt improve as time went on, and that in the end, her shoe choice would be limited, because they will hurt, and if it gets worse, a op might be needed.
i admit, its not my place to tell him the obvious, although he did seem surprised about severe cases needing an op.
i think until that point, he had never realised why i was such a boring old fart of a mother who spent a fortune on shoes, and insisted on low heels, and rounded toes for her kids, and I got the impression from him that i was fussing over something that didnt matter.
i am sure this didnt go down well, but he brought up the subject. and thinking about it, i should have just not responded, and changed the subject. still we all know better in hindsight, so am aware have been unreasonable.