NO glasses = no tv/computer???

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DS has glasses for mixed astgmatism so actually can see as such but focus is a bit scew and it effects his concentration. He has always been good at wearing his glasses.

Been at school this week - forgot them Monday so popped back in for them.

Forgot them yesterday and when asked where they were shrugged (pretty normal for 6yo!?)

He wore his old ones last night (same perscription just rub him as too small) and wore these to school today.

I told him to come home with 2 pairs or he would not be able to have tv/ computer time. Also offered incentive of extra 15 minutes time if they came home.

He wears his glasses too school and would normally come home wearing them. (has a case in his bookbag) I have also said he can have another case at school for his draw to put them in at play.

AIBU to 'punish' this forgetfulness or just BU and horrid?

If I'm BU WWYD.

If I'm not BU do you think erning a sticker daily for remembering them to 'trade' for extra computer time would be a good reward? (otherwise his time is just the same each day iyswim and not a noticeable reward)

Sorry for the essay - advise/flame away

BTW I don't do drop off or pick up as he goes with before/after school club. They too are going to try and remember to remind him!

Carrot definitely better than stick in this case, i would reward the good stuff rather than punish the bad iotherwise he'll end up hating the things.

YANBU as I have the same rule in this house, dts1 is short-sighted and wears glasses for computer and tv only. He knows that if he doesn't have his glasses on then I won't let him watch either and he knows that if he does it will be his own eyes he damages. I know he is only 8 1/2 but it is old enough to take this responsibility.

Thanks ladies - I wear glasses myself and know how sometimes its a PITA Altho mine are permenantly on my face as I can't see without them

Its trying find the balance between incentives for remembering them, conseuquences for not without making too much punishment as I'm not sure that having to wear glasses at 6 isn't a punishment in his eyes iyswim!!!

YBU - I used to be punished for not wearing my glasses & have hated them ever since. I moved to contacts at 15, but my life was made a misery by the constant nagging & threats about wearing the glasses until then. Does it really matter if he doesn't wear them all the time? I only ask because my short-sightedness was never going to be 'cured' by wearing glasses - they help me to see only while I'm wearing them, so there was little point in forcing me to wear them at all times - just at school to see the board etc. would have done.

he has no problem wearing them often wears them all day when he doesn't need them its the attiude of 'oh well i don't know where they are' that grates on me iyswim. Its trying to get him to remember to bring them home I'm encouraging - actually trying to remember to do anything

As a glasses wearer I totally understand where your coming from tho so thanks for your comments.

At 6 the visual system is still developing.

Assuming the glasses are a worthwhile prescription, wearing glasses full time reduces the likelihood of a turn in the eyes or a lazy eye developing.

The vulnerable window of this runs to around 9 (give or take a yr).

So full time wear might be very important as the moment.

Pure short-sightedness (with little or no astigmatism) is really the only "safe" prescription to be worn part time at this age.

Thanks DBennett thats very useful advice. He has the normal, if not to a lesser extent longsightedness of DC's this age but an astigmatism which is -1.00. Optition has said that as I have astigamtism (-1.75) with very mild short sightedness (-0.75) its likely his eyes will be similar. Basically as you said if I was only short sighted I would need glasses for driving/ tv etc but need them full time.

He's back for check up in October so I'll ask optitions advice then.

So I'm NBU then encouraging him to remember them and NBU to stop him doing what he needs to wear them for when he doesn't as I could be damaging his eyes???

I'd do the deal glasses for TV.
I wouldn't nag him, just point out the straight swap once without all the extra words and waffle. He'll get into the habit and everyone will benefit. Yes, he's old enough.

Thanks Goblin - he has just finished getting ready and come and asked for glasses to watch TV!! He really has no probs wearing them - bless him just wish he'd remember to bring the damn things home!!!

Your a teacher aren't you?? His teacher this year pulled me aside day 1 and actually asked what he needed them for and when It was really nice to know they'll remind him etc as last years teacher had NO interest and many times he'd come home with a headache and tell me he'd forgot to put them on (me thinks more like didn't!)

It is easier when he goes wearing them - just PITA when he then comes home without!!!

Teacher with an Aspie son, so we do bargains and building in patterns and reminder tips.
It's the nagging and the guilting and the eye-rolling and heavy sighing that some parents do that often make children resentful and cross about stuff.

Good that he's got a teacher who will be helping him become more responsible for his glasses. {smile]

Very happy with this years teacher, he went on the WOW the other day for remembering what to when he goes in, big change from being put on the sad side for forgetting. He is just a flibbergygibbet who forgets what he's doing, gets distracted etc.

I'm really working on the rewarding for remebering to do things. As you say I want to ingrain the pattern of things.

As he has spare glasses at home I'm going to do the stickers for remembering to trade in for extra computer/ swimming or something (i'll draw up a sticker shopping list!) and try not to ban tv/ computer etc and let him wear his spares. They rub him so he'll probably learn from that anyway without my interference!

I don't think that saying no TV if no glasses is punishment.

He should be wearing his glasses. IMO, it is similar to my own argument of "no sunhat, no playing outside" with my ginger children.

Yep have that one too, puff, he's auburn and quite fair so its suncream, hat, rash vest on the beach.

Hi

I'm kind of hijacking this thread a bit but was looking for something about children not wanting to wear glasses. DS (nearly 9) has not been wearing his glasse at all at school this term (only found out at parents evening!). He should at the very least be wearing them for looking at whiteboard and distance stuff. He has no problem wearing them at home. So took him to opticians and although his prescription hasn't changed she said really he should be wearing them all the time - he is about -2.75 so would really benefit from this. As mentioned above don't want to go down the 'stick' approach but don't want to reward him too much for something he should be doing. Think he is quite a sensitive soul and am guessing that one or two boys at school might have made a comment. He has been wearing them since he was @7 1/2. He has good friends who wear glasses all the time.

Am going to try and get him to wear them during half term when not so much peer pressure at school etc hopefully he will realise he is much better off with them. I also know that the teacher will make him wear them.

Any advice would be very welcome.
TIA

Hi, I replied on you other thread as I followed the advice on here and we have had sucess. Best of luck.