To not want to collect my dds from Guides

[brassick]

First night back at Guides tonight after the summer break, and the dds bring back a letter which says that all Guides have to be collected by a responsible adult.

My dds are 13 and 11, both in secondary school. We live no more than 200 yards from the church where Guides is held. We can see the church from our front window.

The walk home takes 2 minutes, most of which is taken by crossing the (main, well lit) road. There is a pedestrian crossing that they can use if necessary, so no traffic danger. Plenty of cars and people around, so no "stranger danger".

Guides is meant to finish at 8, but often runs over, sometimes up to 15 minutes over - so parents are hanging around at the back of the hall waiting for their daughters.

I don't particularly want to waste my time standing round waiting for them when they are perfectly capable of walking themselves home.

Would I BU to tell the Guiders that dds are allowed to walk home, or should I just not rock the boat and do what they ask (as I'm sure they are only doing it for the best reasons & I don't want to cause them hassle)?

I'd have a word with the Guiders, offer to write a permission letter and also to text one of the Guiders to confirm they've arrived safely if the adults would appreciate the peace of mind this brings.

Where I taught for years (a less pleasant part of SE London), the children were allowed to walk home alone once they were in Y3 without any written permission. If parents wanted us to release Y2 children without an adult they had to provide explicit consent,

Just a quick update. Dh took the dds to Guides this evening, and explained to them that we are happy for the dds to walk home together without us.

They were absolutely fine about it.

So, problem (easily) solved!

Thanks all for your input

Completely ridiculous. When I was in Guides in the 90s, I had to walk nearly a mile home. Since it was in my junior school, which I had already been walking nearly a mile to, my mum had no qualms about letting me walk to and from Guides. Perhaps in the winter/bad weather she might have fetched me in the car sometimes, especially when I was only ten. Guides goes from 10 to 14 iirc, and I know after the age of about 12 there was no way my mum would have been taking me to and from a venue in the same village that I could have got to on my bike in ten minutes. Very very silly.

"I don't particularly want to waste my time standing around waiting for them". Is this about your girls learning to be independent or you not wanting to be bothered to make an effort for them? Good job the guide leaders don't think like you or there wouldn't be a group.

Oh, it's all about me not wanting to be bothered, of course it is

That's why I spend most of my time when I'm not in work driving my kids to and from their various activities (the ones that are too far to walk to obv), and attending every concert, performance, match and event that they are in...

Completely ridiculous. When I was in Guides in the 90s, I had to walk nearly a mile home. Since it was in my junior school, which I had already been walking nearly a mile to, my mum had no qualms about letting me walk to and from Guides. Perhaps in the winter/bad weather she might have fetched me in the car sometimes, especially when I was only ten. Guides goes from 10 to 14 iirc, and I know after the age of about 12 there was no way my mum would have been taking me to and from a venue in the same village that I could have got to on my bike in ten minutes. Very very silly.