To be a little disappointed

[wornoutbutstillwonderful]

I don't post very often on here but lurk alot,
I'm just looking for peoples opinion on whether I have a reason to be fed up or whether I'm just being an ungrateful cow.
It was my birthday on monday my husband fetched the kids up to wish me happy birhtday and give me my cards they had a lovely pink gift bag in the little ones hands inside was a gift wrapped in pretty pink paper, when I unwrapped it I found a plastic case for the back of my blackberry (I didn't even know hat it was I had to ask them). Now I didn't expect anything extravagent but maybe some flowers would have been nice. On sunday my husband did try to take us to a pub in the country (an hours drive away) so he picked me up from work drove us there to find it was closed then drove around for a further hour just hoping that anywhere was open, I hadn't had anything to eat all day as I hadn't had a break at work then was straight off out to with my family, so by the time we found somewhere I was feeling rather car sick then to top it off he hadn't fetched enough cash or his card so I had to put money to. I know I sound abit ungrateful and I don't mean to but I also feel taken for granted and slightly sad by the effort put in so now I'm wondering am I being unreasonable.

Sounds to me like he was trying, but is just a bit crap at organising! Does he have form for being rubbish with birthdays? Mine does his best but just isn't very good a planning things. I have to drop very specific hints!

:(

I don't think YABU. Was the blackberry case all you got?

However, if the pub had been open (which wasn't DHs fault) you'd probably have had a lovely time and wouldn't be feeling quite so down.

Happy (belated!) birthday :)

YANBU to be disappointed but it does sound as though his intentions were good, albeit his organisation was lame

Yes Flissflaps that was the only gift, it wasn't like i would have wanted a large amount spent just something abit more personal maybe.
I haven't said anything and did put a smile on my face and once told what the present was did say "ooh how lovely" (whilst thinking wtf) just feel fed up and I don't think I'll be making any sort of effort for his birthday (and now I sound petty aaargh).

I know some people are going to say this isn't relevant but I want to know how much a plastic Blackberry case costs?

Also, the fact he had no cash or card and you had to pay is pretty bad imo.

I think the case costs about £15.

Thanks ladyintheRadiator that was the way was thinking I think I feel more guilty for feeling like this than what he does I haven't said anything as I don't want to seem ungrateful.

no i don't think so. the present was a little unexciting, followed by a crappy day, which ok wasn't his fault. Yet i guess he should have checked if the pub would be open or booked esp on a sunday.

YANBU - that's crap. Divorce him right away for unreasonable behaviour!

at least you're not in Darfur

Don't let this fester! tbh sounds as if he was trying to do all the right things. imo it's the little things that make a man that matter. Did he get the children up and organised etc, give them breakfast? Give you a cup of tea/break? The disappointing drive out for a meal must have been the final blow if you were feeling low already, and then the lack of cash but what did he have on his plate (puny pun) to even organise that?

Hully, I know that's true but basically we'd have to shut down MN if we applied that fact to everything.

It doesn't sound like her was trying, or if he was I'd hate to see him on a day when he wasn't making an effort Is he generally a bit clueless?

I think it's that old thing - you have to spell out what you'd like to happen.

YANBU

Dh is totally plop at birthdays.

Thanks for the responses everyone I think I needed to hear I wasn't being a complete cow for feeling p***d off.