to hate the term 'fraped'

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i have noticed alot of this lately on FB were someone's brother/friend/girlfriend has hacked their account and put an embarrassing status update on it. the person then logs in and posts "fraped" as in face raped. i hate that phrase. every time i see it i get angry with the person who has posted it, even if it is family.

me too

it's disgusting IMO

I understand your point but I know rape victims that are happy to use it (which was my initial concern - that it would upset them)

Have never heard of it..does that mean I am old?

Not very tasteful though!

Facbook raped, FFTM.

ANd no, it's fairly recent.

meh don't have a problem with it. The way in which generations use terms and languages tend to evolve and give their own meanings and weight to certain words.

I don?t get angry, but I think it?s a horrible choice of made-up word. And it may be that some rape victims are happy to use it, but that doesn?t mean that everybody is comfortable with it. I don?t like it, and I would never use it, but it has already slipped into usage, and is probably here to stay. No, YANBU

I don't like it.

No certainly it doesn't mean that everyone is happy to use it. I am not entirely comfortable with it myself. May is right though, our generation aren't using it in a horrible way. The actual meaning and origin of the phrase is not really thought of enough.

imo it is a teen thing and as often is said on here when they use other words, they don't think of the real meaning, ds uses it on fb, I don't like it, but as he is 18 not a lot you can do

I know some 40 year olds who say it But then I think it just makes them look stupid.

I have seen the word Raped used in that context which is even worse! As in so and so has been face book Raped!

Or mouth raped (you put your finger in someone's mouth)

FFS

No wonder that prick of a boxer thinks its ok to say his next fight is going to be 'as one sided as a gang rape'

and [doddery old lady emoticon] another reason I don't use facebook.

SirBoobAlot ell at least I know it wasn't me

2shoes you're not old enough to be that individual - you're early twenties, aren't you?

Definately not u. I hate it, and I don't think it should just be rape victims who get the say on whether its acceptible.

I had a 'friend' on fb who put on her status recently about having her eyes raped at having to sit opposite a bfing mother on the train.

poppydog that is awful. it really does trivialise rape IMO to use it in these circumstances. rape is just such a horrible horrible thing to happen to anyone. when i see the word 'fraped' it just makes me feel very sad tha it is being used so flippantly.

sorry for a slight hi-jack but just out of interest do the people who object to this term and casual use of the term rape also object when they hear activists (normally eco/preservationists) using the term in a context along the lines of "raping the countryside/ raping our natural landscape".
It's just that I was reminded of an incident on Match of the day years ago when Alan Curbishly ( i think it was) used the term to describe a forward violently dispossesing a defender of the ball, later when he was asked to apologise he used that explanation. i.e. said he was using it in one of it's traditional definitions and obviously had not meant it in relation to sexual rape.he argued that if he had been an academic discussing preservation and not a former footballer nobody would have assumed he meant it in the sexual sense.
I'm just wondering if there are any similarities with regards to teenagers, i.e. assuming that they are using it with connotations to sexual rape or projecting our own interpretations rather than as an evolved term to which they have assigned their own meaning and weight.

I would mind that too MQ. Although as the original meaning was "to steal" (which tells you something doesn't it ), it seems silly to mind it in old usages like The Rape of the Lock for example. I get tired of having to explain that "rape and pillage" actually means "stealing & stealing" - not what people think. Find it vaguely disturbing when people make jokes about "raping and pillaging" in the belief that it actually means raping though. Is that funny? Whoops no it isn't.

First time I've heard this. Horrible!

I've never heard it before and I hope I never hear it again.

i dont think the common use of the word rape in any form of light humor is appropriate.

For the record, I've been raped and the term "fraped" doesn't bother me. I don't think of it as trivialising rape. To me, it is just a word - although I definitely wouldn't say the same about a lot of other potentially offensive words.

Like Poppydog, I don't think that only people who have been raped [sidenote: a lot of people who have been raped dislike being referred to as "rape victims;" some prefer "rape survivors," or other similar terms] should have a say in whether it's offensive or not, but I do think it's massively patronising to assume that anyone who has been raped is going to have their peace of mind shattered by seeing a play on the word "rape" on someone's Facebook page.

fairycake thank you for sharing that. can i just say, my intention was not to patronise anyone by staring this thread. i am just uncomfortable reading it. it is one of those words that jumps out at me if it is amongst a paragraph of words. it has very negative connotations and i suppose like most people, it isn't nice being reminded of not so nice things. i accept that some rape survivors may have no problem with the word being used in this way, similarly, some people who have never been raped do have a problem with it. i am one of them. sorry if that offends anyone. it is how i feel.