to give up on friend

[tinky19]

So, was very close to my friend. We live far apart but when she had DD1, I visited, gave gifts etc.
2yrs later after 18months of trying I fell pregnant and phoned her. left answer phone message saying please phone back, I have news, so she irritatingly texted me to say, are you pregnant? Has only sent text messages since saying congratualtions on pregnancy, then birth. I've invited her to christening but she's busy.
Am IBU to just ignor her from now on?

Yep let go!!
Move on life is too short. yes there could be a reason with her life or marriage etc or she just isn't interested in you amymore. It is life i am afraid. People move on...so must you.. you have done everything you can. It hurts and you wonder why and you blame yourself. The get over it and find new people. Join a suppoert group for new moms. Join several. Good luck xx

i feel so lonely without my old friends. i don't seem able to make new 'mum' friends

Is the invite to the christening the only contact you've had recently? I wouldn't say "give up om her", because you may well reunite many years down the line; cutting her off completely when you're both so busy seems cruel.

But otoh, you seem keen to get shot, so in that case, get shot.

How much contact have you had over the last couple of years since the birth of her DD? You mentioned visiting/gifts when born but what sort of contact since?
If not much, could she be feeling as though you have already drifted apart since she had children and resent it? TBH if I felt this way about a 'very close friend' I would talk things over with her first before writing the friendship off, it could be something easily resolved.

I have tried over and over to arrange to visit her, sent cards etc but she is always too busy. I think I need to just take the hint

I am currently in the (mental as yet)process of ditching a friend but I think that your friend is being diplomatic

People change, they move far away, have children and make friends where they live.

I actually think this scenario is very common, though still hurtful.

Christmas and/or Birthday cards become the only contact as you drift apart.

If you feel that strongly about the friendship you could continue to try to contact her, but if it were me, I'd let this one go and set about making a new group of friends yourself.

some people just no good at making effort to maintain friendship sadly.
re not knowing any mum friends; have u tried local mother n toddler,playgroups or storytimes at library?
This is how I made some great new friends.