to think my mil is out of order??

[mirandathree]

my ds started secondary school today and she hasnt rang to wish him luck nor has she rang tonight to see how he is....think I am spoilt with my parents and siblings who all rang to wish him all the best.....she is generally a selfish person at the best of times so my dh is not surprised but I still feel really narked at her!

YABU

He's your child, he's not her child, she doesn't love him as much as you do and she shouldn't. It would be weird.

Kids that age barely grunt on the phone to aging rellies. I wouldn't have phoned him either.

... and to think that I considered it an honour that my poor old grandmother remembered my age. Ringing because it was the first day of school???? please.... you know YABU? don't you?

YABU

and I love good MIL bashing threads

So everyone else rang to wish your son luck? How lovely! What a lovely, close, thoughtful family you have.

Yet you are on MN whinging about the one person who didn't.

Are you a glass half empty sort of person OP?

YABU no one rang either of my kids when they started secondary school. Actually I think my kids would have found it a bit freaky if they had.

if my dear mil were still alive, she would have sent a gift, a card and rung both before and after. She was always really OTT in a mdly loving way with the dc. It was lovely. Once I got used to it.

Now my mum........

tbh I do feel let down by her (calling the day of dc birthday and asking if I can pop out and get something and she'll bung the money in my account to pay for it) but hey ho. People are different. If all of your family are OTT very interested and attentive, frankly your dc doesn't need your mil to be too. In fact he might find the cooler approach refreshing. Either way you would do best to accept mil (why only angry with mil btw, not fil/sil?) as she is.

Love Yuno's post :)