Rude, petty, over emotional and ignorant neighbour

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I am sick of her and feel unhappy in my own home because of her.

Whom over reacts about the tiniest of things. For example she complained to the housing association that the water from the small paddling pool that being used by her now ('best friend') neighbour seeped into her flower beds.

My son is blind and autistic and has no communication skills. We have lived in this proerty 3 years longer than above described neighbour. My son has recemtly developed a habit of slapping the stair bannister when he wants a drink or after i have just been up to change his CD he wants another track on.
Last night my son was unusually awake and started to tap the bannister. I got up to see him and the neighbour rang my bell and started pointing in my face and shouting at me that my son was this and that etc and had awoken her grand daughter from her sleep.

She has a reason to complian THIS TIME i totally understand i too like to lead a quiet life and i always discourage my son from making noise. I cant always stop him and the noise levels has become a bit worst which made her complain to me because of the 6 weeks hols and he was restless at home.

The way she has dealt with this and then lieing saying she has put up with the noise for 5 years etc has made me really angry as my son spent most of his life in hospital and unable to walk the stairs until 2 years ago

I have reported this serial complainer and just because my son is disabled does not mean i expect special treatment but a little sympathy from her would help and the fact she has lied about my son to get to me

MAKES ME SOOO MAD IN WANT TO SMACK HER
which i would not do.

She has also suggested my walls be sound proofed fair enough i said

then today she wound me up as i was politely informing her of my appt with the housing officer and i lost my cool and the other neighbour that was there is obviously on her side ( she is anybodies mate, 2 faced and bi polar) i told them both never to speak to me again.

they are soo nosey too

sounds stressful.

Work with the housing officer. Do as much as can reasonably done and get reassurance from the housing officer that you cannot be expected to do more.

Then complain to them about this woman's harrassment of you.

You poor thing. This woman sounds very difficult.

I live in a block of 14 flats. One lady has a severely autistic child with no communication. She's knackered from having to work her life around the downstairs neighbour to complains if she hoovers during east enders.

She even takes her lo out at 3am if he's kicking off - the rest of us hear him but his a neighbour and he's not doing it on purpose.

You should complain about her.

yep, complain about her, she is terrorising you!

I truly hope the housing officer can get you the help you need!

As if you haven't enough on your plate, I'd stick to your guns and never speak to them again, they'll need you before you need them no doubt.

Keep a record of all the times hat she hassles you. As much detail as possible.

As pp says, ask advice from and work with the housing officer to try to get some support from them.

Good luck

Dont get involved with them at all. They are the sort of people who thrive on conflict and love a row. Most of my neighbours are like that. They spend their boring lives getting into feuds with each other, making up and then ganging up on someone else.

Its not about your or your boy. Your neighbour is just looking for something to be annoyed about.

I am sorry you are having to deal with this idiot.

Look on the positive side, it may help you get some adaptations done to your home. Soundproofing/insulation might be a good thing.

Hope you get something sorted. In the meantime write it all down. Keep a brief record of anything she says/does.

You sound like a bundle of laughs talking about the bipolar woman as if it makes some kind of difference. You dont want special treatment because your son is disabled but you don't want people to complain about unreasonable noise?

I wouldnt say it was that unreasonable tbh. I have put up with a hell of a lot worse when I lived in flats.

Its not about special treatment though. Its about tolerance and understanding of her son's particular needs. If he slaps the banister to communicate its not the same as someone just making a racket for the sake of it.

We could all complain about our neighbours if we wanted to. I am sure they all do something we dont like. But we dont because its petty.

Some people have too much time on their hands.

I am so upset tonight. I have left lots of details out. The lady that is bi-polar i have known for 3 years longer. She is friendly but nosey! I have helped this Lady on 2 different occasions. Once she was screaming and ranting outside my door at 3.30am, naked and had been for a walk with her dog. I looked after her and her distant relatives live 2 doors away and ignored her. On the other occasion she tried to poison her son. I helped her and stayed with her. I also paid for extra childcare so i could be with her. this Lady has suffered a lot and vfery easily influenced by this sad otrout that is making my life hell FOR NOTHING.

This woman is the most pettiest woman i have ever known.
I have had 4 anon calls to Rspaca, social services, dwp, housing association. All made since she has been living here. I have the burning feeling she wants me out!!

Update

i have been to the housing officer and he told me that sound proofing is out of the question. My son was a bit noisy during the last week of the 6 week holidays. Now i feel that this woman is going to report me for every single little thing as she hs always been determind to find fault with me and others too. I amn nervous even though i do not have anything to do with her and when i have chatted etdc it is onkly being polite and to placate her. over the last 5 years she has really made me miserable in my home as she is jealous of my sons motability car as he is blind and autistic. The housing officer requested to see her but she has put the date of their meeting forwarda dn i feel as she is so petty she is compiling a redic case afgainst me.
I feel i should go to the GP and tel;l him how this is making me feel and my sobns social worker has notes of my complaints about her.

I really am a good neighbour and the other side have no problem with me.
I just want this woman to leave us alone and stop thinking she has a right to talk to me.

Please excuse typing errors.
I am full of anxiety and i have done nothing to her.

Insidious is this womans middle name.

if i agree to soundproffing (which housing have refused), keep my child off the stairs, do not speak to her and have a fence inbetween our properties which i shall pay for.

i cannot see what else she will have to say about me.

I really want her to leave me alone and having a disabled child and not being able to work and being a vulnerable (she plays on this) MAKES IT HELL FOR ME

ffs just tell to fuck the fuck off followed by "go and fuck yourself you fucking bitch"

That will probably result in her never speaking to you again "RESULT"

Nasty cow who needs pushing down the stairs

LOL xx

Sorry you are gonig through this! She sounds like a bully to me...one of those people who imagines all sorts of slights just for an excuse to pick o people.

My own reaction would have been a lot les reasonable than yours! I tend to react in a way which can bring more trouble...I would probably have told her to come to my step ONE more time and she'd regret it.

However...you are doing right in speaking to the HA abou the cow...also write it all down...dates and times of her coming to you...what she said/did.

People like this have no place making you miserable....oooh. I would like a word with her myself!

Is moving elsewhere an option at all? Did it come up in your discussion with the housing officer?

Get to your GP as you are anxious and they may be able to help through some mild medication in the short term (I had some after my DD was born - I was petrified of being left on my own with her; they really helped me and I didn't need them for long at all)

You should report this woman to the police and the council. She is making your life difficult - claim it back for your own sanity (and your son)!

Maybe treat her like a toddler - no audience, no performance.

yes

no communication from me to her is the key, what can she do then? she is obsessed.
I have spent a lot of time and money making our house comfortable i do not want to move. She is jealous of this.
There wasa bit of a relationship there in terms of her approcahing me and me speking to her i even went to xmas dinner there and felt so uncomfortable and she almost pushed me out of the door. I think she really really cares about what people think of her.

I just want her to leave me alone
FOREVER

DO NOT show any weakness with people like this they will take advantage of any compromise or apology (deserved or otherwise) be VERY BLUNT with her, resort to abuse and anger YOU OWE HER no respect of any kind. She will see any attempt at compromise as a weakness to be taken advantage of.