to want a "proper job" just for the lie-in?

[ButterpieBride]

I work from home, part time, DH works out of home, full time. We have two preschoolers (a baby and a three year old).

I want a "proper" job. As well as my part time job, because I love it, but I want a job where I start at x time and work until x. I want to be able to say "you get up with the kids love, I'm at work in a bit" and "oh, I can't possibly do the laundry I'm working". Ooh, and I could send the kids to nursery without feeling awful (I send them part time so I can work from home, but technically I could work with them here, I just like the break). I want to go out with a drink with the girls from work. I want a works christmas do. I want to stop gossiping when the boss walks in. I want to have a daily commute where I could read a book or listen to music. Etc...

My health probably wouldn't stand more than about one, maybe two, days of work, and I have no qualifications to speak of, so we are talking checkout, bar or care home, but I am a good people person with general intelligence and care, till, bar, waiting on, customer service, sales, office and supervisory experience, so I'm sure I could find something...

DH says I'm dreaming and that there are no jobs, and even if there were some I will struggle to find one for so few hours.

My other idea is a course or volunteering. Courses are a bit awkward though, as I don't need basic skills, but I don't want the commitment of starting yet another degree course (I am a serial dropout)

We aren't rich by any means (household income of about £16,000 pa) but I doubt one day at minimum wage will make much difference either way to our general finances.

Any thoughts?

I think that your children are at particularly tricky ages as a combination. I can remember looking at the clock at 6pm and thinking to myself, see you later kids I'm off to the pub! Of course I was making dinner for dh and me before bathing the children and cracking on with bedtime.

If you would like to get a job then go for it, just consider that childcare costs could be higher than your earnings at this stage. I really hope that you find some satisfaction in whatever you choose to do.

If you need to have a "real job" to get a lie-in, its a new husband you need, not a new job.

I do not work but get a lie in on a Saturday morning (and lie-though - so he's on "duty" if a child wakes and needs us) and he gets one on Sunday morning. He works very long hours, but we are an equal partnership and he respects and values my role in the home, and therefore wouldn't consider not giving me the same privilige I give him.

So your real problem I suspect is the lump in the bed beside you - you could get a "real job" and I suspect you still wouldn't have your lie in.

Sounds as if your husband thinks he is more deserving of a lie in because he works full time & you "only" work part time.

And when you are working from home I assume your children look after themselves so that you can get the work done.

And that your children nevr need looking after outside of "work" hours for example.

sloany - she's only just married this one!!

ButterPie - you didn't really expect him to change when you got married did you? Get the job, prove the control freak him wrong.