To be fed up of chasing dd up the stairs and just leave her to it?

[Tokyotwist]

This is my 2 yr olds favourite thing at the moment. DH always nags for me to go after her. He worries that she'll come to mischief upstairs or fall down coming down.

I am so fed up of chasing her (3 floors) and just think, she'll come down when she's ready.

He can't chase her as he's on crutches. I have even contemplated a stair gate on the bottom, but decided agianst it as I think at 2, she should be able to use the stairs.

Is this an unreasonable expectation?

What does she need to go upstairs without you for?

If she doesn´t, why not get a stair gate?

I'd just let her go up on her own, possibly shut doors to rooms where she could cause mischief (or put things out of reach).

it depends on the two year old - my dd1 could safely go up at 2, dd2 is 22 months and i don't trust her on her own yet, but she has only just learnt to walk.

in our house the rule was you can go up, but you need help to get down. but our stairs are really steep. i did once decree that dd1 would never be allowed to come downstairs on her own, but inevitably she got bigger and it started to seem slightly less dangerous...

i feel your pain though, about someone who is not willing/able to enforce a rule insisting on the rule. my dp does that. it drives me mental...