to be unreasonably angry with dh

[ThatVikRinA22]

i know i am being unreasonable. at least i suspect i am. a bit. but tonight, when i look at him, i just want to smash his face in.

he is meant to be having a vasectomy to allow me to come off a pill that doesnt agree with me. i have taken hormones for 21 years. id like to stop now.

they rang from hospital on Wednesday. and he hasnt rung back. he keeps forgetting. he says he needs to check at work when he can get some time off but keeps forgetting to look.

well i think ill forget to have sex for 6 months or so., that should jog his memory.

oh, that and he gave DS the back door key - the only back door key we own, and he gave it to DS despite DS having lost 4 keys in the last few months. so im angry about that too. even though DS did bring it back in one piece.

i feel irrationally angry with him tonight. maybe its new job nerves. i start a new job monday and im nervous. i will hardly see him for the next 6 months which is probably just as well...

Nah, YANBU. All men conveniently "forget" things that they deep down don't want to do...

If I were in your shoes I would be coming off the pill pronto and withholding sex until he 'remembers' to get the snip. I have taken wine, but it is about bloody time men took responsibility for something (other than putting the bins out)

'it is about bloody time men took responsibility for something (other than putting the bins out)'

Mine doesn't even do that. Perhaps I need more wine...

YANBU! He is just a cowardly custard like my dh. Who at the age of 53 and no longer desirous of babies, gives me the excuse that his sperm might be needed in the event of a nuclear war, to repopulate the planet. They both need their arses kicking. IMHO.

And coming off the pill is dangerous I think. You might have one of those drunken silly urges from which there is no coming back!

How about you just come off the hormones yourself and then tell him condoms plus strict abstaining?

If he really does not like then he can choose a vasectomy.

That way you both get to choose what you each want when you want.

trust me - he can choose vasectomy. or become a monk.

i will be coming off this pill. i have bled non stop for 5 months complete with period pain, every sodding day and its getting worse not better.

I've done this. DH just waiting for snip appointment. He phoned clinic, remembered appointment, completed questionnaire thingy promptly. After many years of hormones I am free.

Dr at clinic (on removing my final expired implant) was somewhat cats bum faced when I told her that I was not considering any other form of contraception except fuck off until you are sperm free, but hey ho.

At least he's considering the snip - I got sterilised because mine wouldn't countenance anyone coming near his manhood with a sharp object! You do need to come off the hormones though - being refused sex till he's had the snip will focus his mind nicely.

Tell him that if he doesn't sort it out, you'll do it for him with a rusty spoon. Don't worry, I'll hold him down for you. But come off that pill. It is damaging you.

If the pill is causing you probelms and you don;t want to continue wit it, definitely stop taking it. He will either have to abstain or wear a condomn.