to want dh to leap swiftly, willingly and cheerfully (yet quietly) out of bed to change a pooey nappy?

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Dh works away all week and comes home for the weekend.

That means that he gets lots and lots of lovely, uninterrupted, child-free sleep all week.

So when ds wanders in a 5am this morning and announces that he has done an enormous pooey nappy, aibu to think that dh should chirp "I'll do this one" and get out of bed and DO it. NOW. IMMEDIATELY. STRAIGHT AWAY. And not say that he'll do it, getting my hopes up that for the first morning in 5 days I don't have to stumble out of bed before 6 to deal with poo, and then slumber on while ds wriggles in for a smelly cuddle with me?

I ended up flouncing out of bed 15 minutes later pointing out very huffily that it is actually preferable to just bloody do it myself and I could have been back in bed dozing by now having sorted ds and set him up with some books on the carpet. Instead of which I spend the first 15 minutes of my day being mauled and adored by a very loving toddler with a nappy full of poo.

Dh fully intended to do it, but I wanted him to do it NOW. Not in a minute. NOW.

YANBU
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YANBU, tomorrow get DS to point his smelly bottom in his face until he gets up

That happens at five am every day?
Stop giving him prunes at bedtime

Compo. There was a thread once where some poor woman asked how she could reschedule her son's bowels to a more convenient time for her. She got a right flaming if I remember right.

I KNEW I wasn't being unreasonable. I shall print out this thread, roll it up and encourage ds to trumpet at Daddy until he gets up tomorrow morning.

YANBU.

DS does a poo every morning just before waking up.

A wriggly smelly baby has his uses though. If I want DH to wake up, I lie DS between me and DH and chances are he will be so happy to see daddy, he'll crawl all over his face. A stinky baby slapping him in the eye usually wakes him up

Well, no-one should have to be cheerful when faced with prospect of nappy, but YANBU. God love him, DH has been getting up at 5 or 6 with ds pretty much every day for weeks...

From one woman on the edge to another .... YANBU

YANBU. My DH is the king of "I'll do X" then after I have got fed up waiting and done X myself he has a hissy fit because he said HE would do it.

I imagine he goes back to sleep because he knows you will get up and do it!

YANBU.

I was very naughty when dd2 was wakeful at night. I just used to nudge dh "your turn" and being a kind and trusting soul he would get up. (for dummy rather than a pooey nappy to be fair)

One night he woke me apologetically at around 4am. He said "I know that you say it is my turn, but can I just check it really is? I have been up 4 times since 1am!!" I did relent on that occasion I think she had a cold or temp or something that was disturbing her that night.

Dh was in mortal danger this evening when he told me how the women at work admired him for getting up this morning at 5am with ds .

This would be the same dh who is doing a sleepathon in front of the football, while I've sorted dinner, put kids to bed, feed baby etc on less than 4 interrupted hours of sleep a night this week.

Am going to read this thread and take revenge inspiration!

Top tip, if you use a monitor, always have it on your dh's side. if he "can't hear it" show him the volume control.

Ah you are not unreasonable but slightly unrealistic.. men just don't work that way... I made dh get up once at 3 to feed and change dd1 and he deliberately did such a bad job that I had to get up anyway to settle her back to sleep... With dd2 I never bothered but he is now quite good when dd1 has a bad dream and he will go an see her and put the light on on the landing. I don't think men understand small babies!

YANBU! Don't think yourself unreasonable, more hopelessly unrealistic with a hint of naive optimism! DC2 was 3 months old before DP worked out which way round a nappy fits!

See, I'm afraid I just don't buy the whole "men can't" nonsense. Propaganda put about by the patriarchy .

This morning he managed a beautiful enthusiastic leap out of bed and squirreled the childred downstairs before I had time to turn over and drool on my pillow. I didn't know a thing until tea and juice in bed a couple of hours later. It almost made me forgive him for yesterday.

Ladies! Here is a top tip that my friend very succesfully carried out when her son was a baby.

Every time he woke up in the night crying she would get up to soothe him by repeatedly telling the baby "Oh, poor you, you want daddy, don't you? Daddy would make you feel better, wouldn't he?" etc...

After a while the hypnosis worked - her son would wake up and immediately start calling and wailing for DADDY. Only daddy.

Hey presto! Her husband felt like superman and he did the nights (well, some of them!).

Unfortunately I have shot myself in the foot and already told my husband this brilliant solution that my oh so clever friend did. He will be on the lookout for it...