Other peoples crap left for me to tidy up

[Gerz]

I'll start by saying I'm not the tidyest of people by a long shot but then I do the tidying of the house so if I leave my shit around, its me that ends up tidying it up.
What is pissing me off lately is that DP and DSD are just leaving their crap everywhere and then he has the cheek to have a go at me if the house isn't tidy.
For instance, on a night he takes his socks off and just leaves them on the living room floor, sometimes he even leaves dirty boxer shorts on the sofa along with the used towel he'd brought in from his shower.
Yesterday I was tidying the living room and I had to move his dirty socks, dirty boxers, a pair of DSD's shoes, a bag she'd left on the sofa, an empty can from DP and a lucozade bottle that was on the sofa. Later that night, DSD came home and kicked off that her lucozade bottle had been thrown away!!! I said I assumed it was rubbish since it was empty and just left on the sofa. DP said I should be more careful with what I throw away and then went and apologised to DSD on my behalf!
AIBU to have had enough with cleaning up after everyone else?

No, you are not. When you come across blatant laziness/inability to find the bin or laundry basket, simply place the offending article in their bed. It worked for my DSD - bowls, glasses, empty conditioner packets... Presumably you neither live in ancient Greece and are a slave of low caste nor are paid as a scullery maid.

YANBU.

If I was you I'd just chuck the DSD's crap in their bedrooms from now on and firmly shut the door. That's what I do with my teens when I feel like they're taking advantage of me. I just pile it all up on their beds for them to sort out. They get fed up eventually and have a clear out.

Hahaha...cross posts but same idea. I'm just veeeeery slow at typing.

"had to move"

What? You dont have to move anything.

Seriously, grow a backbone - if they have a go at you because the house is untidy and its their stuff, they need a serious attitude readjustment.

Why not say "okay then, lets all put the things we personally left out away then and we'll be done in 5 minutes".

If you've not left anything out, you put your feet up whilst they tidy up.

The fact that he is "having a go" at you for the house being untidy means he actually cares how it looks. That's a good start.

Do NOT put anything in their bedrooms! That is tidying up, in a sense! Leave it untidy and when they complain, tell them to tidy up!

She wouldn't notice if I chucked it in her bedroom, it would just blend in with all the other crap on the floor/on her bed.

DP is always moaning that he has no clean clothes. I'm considering just putting every dirty item of clothing I come across (that isn't in the laundry basket) in a binliner and keeping it in the cupboard under the stairs. See how full it gets before he realises all his clothes are going missing.

YANBU!! My DH goes through phases like that; I think he thinks that if he's working long hours it exempts him from putting his rubbish in the bin (he leaves it on the worktop with the recycling for me to sort through rather than putting non-recyclable stuff in the bin), putting his clothes in the wash basket, and emptying out bathwater. He also keeps leaving things on the coffee table in reach of our 13 month old DS, then moaning when DS gets hold of said item.

When he gets like this, I go round the house, gather up anything he's left lying around, be it plates, wrappers, socks, trainers, whatever, and dump it all on the floor next to his side of the bed.

There's two advantages tho sloany - firstly it gets it cleared and out of sight without resorting to a dust up, and secondly it makes a significant point about whose crap it is

A refinement on the "chuck it on their bed" tactic is to do that, then nicely smooth the duvet over the top.

My husband leaves everything lying about and it annoys the hell out of me. The worst is his ties. He comes in from work and throws it on the stairs and they used to sit there for ages as I refused to move them as I told him he was being lazy. I now have a secret stash of ties. I put them there if he takes his tie off and doesn't put the tie where it's meant to go. He has noticed some ties are missing but when he asks I say I have no idea where they are. I will tell him when he is down to his last ten then hopefully he will have learned his lesson!