I'm having a genuine dilemma with this one so would be reallly interested in your honest opinions, and to see how this compares with experiences across the country.
DS3 attends a local independently run (ie not attached to any school) preschool. He turned three last October and so has been there a while already as he was entitled to the nursery / preschool grant from January (DS1 and 2 were also there for almost 2 years each too - I'll come back to this!).
Last year he was entitled to 12.5 hours free, so he attended 4 x 3hr sessions a week. We didn't do the 5th morning, because we would have had to pay for the session (£18 per session). It would have been convenient for me for him to have done so, as I study part-time and the extra couple of hours would have been useful - but we couldn't afford it.
This year, as you probably know, the preschool provision has increased to 15 hours per week, which would cover 5x 3 hours. On this basis we signed him up for 5 mornings a week for this academic year (thinking 'hurray, that gives me an extra morning free' :) )
However..... because the nursery grant doesn't pay as much as parents paying privately do, the preschool say that they can no longer cover the cost of resources if all children's places are fully covered by the government grant. On this basis they are asking for a 'voluntary donation' of £1.50 per session. Also, because the grant only coveres 13 weeks per term, and the autumn term is longer, we have the 'option' of paying for the extra sessions to cover until the end of term (preschool runs with the local school term). In short, for our 'free' preschool place, we have had a ("voluntary") invoice for almost £190 for this term.
Am I being unreasonable to not want to pay? The (LEA) paperwork that came with the invoice says that we cannot be made to pay and any contributions that the provider asks for are purely voluntary. We can pay (ie we could find the extra money, but we don't have that sort of amount lying around going spare
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DH was really pissed off and argues that preschool ought to be able to manage their own budget and it's not our fault that they are spending more than they can afford. Basicallly, he feels that we are being asked to tighten our belts so that they don't have to. I see his point, and agree - but.....
.... if we don't pay, will we be effectively sponging off the other parents who HAVE paid the donation?
I genuinely don't know what to do. As I said, the money isn't exactly going spare, but we COULD find it and pay it. I'm bloody annoyed at having been asked for it though! However (again) I really don't want to generate any hard feeling or awkwardness - as I mentioned above my elder two went to the same preschool - I've been taking one or other of my children for 5 years continuously now - and the staff there are almost a part of the family.
Would it be unreasonable to refuse to pay?