to not want to attend every family do with DH's family?

[madmumma]

urgh

we have no social life whatsoever but i am expected to want to socialise with DH's family all the time

tomorrow headed to stay with them for five days DH will be working for most of those days and my mood has slipped down into the gutter

DH + I haven't been out together since May 2008

AIBU?

Need more details to be certain but it doesn't sound as if you are being unreasonable. I think it's fair enough to expect you to visit his family and attend important events with him. But staying with them for five days while your DH isn't there sounds unusual.

If you don't want to do it, why do you feel you can't say no? And is there any reason why you have no social life?

YANBU to not want to but I think you should. I know how you feel about the no social life problem, I seem to have lost all my friends after giving birth and if one more person suggests I go to a mum and baby groups I'll cry! Have tried it and no one bloody spoke to me. Am a bit sad really.

don't want to post too many details as worried about DH family seeing this!!!! (paranoid i know)

Before DS was born we went out but we went out separately i had a cracking social life in London but of course that has all gone. I am SAHM at the moment.

I have no friends that are non-mummy any more which is a bit sad really but i think that is par for the course. Tinky19 i met my best mummy friend at the hospital ante-natal group and DH gets on with her DH thank goodness (he is DH's only friend)

I managed to plan a night out with ten mummies and it was a success but somehow i am itching to get back to the social life before DS but i do realise that is not going to happen for a very long time i guess its all part of the adjusting. Socialising with family is just so boooooring and I can't get excited or even feel positive about this

i am being a bit U
Hubby keeps banging on about responsibilities :(

Blow that, I'd suggest that he takes some time off work, goes to the family with your DC and you spend those days letting your hair down with old friends in London.

(But then I never did consider other people's family to be my responsibility!).

Dare you suggest this to him?

what scares me is that i am going to out at some point (coz it will happen) and i am going to go MAD drinking and dancing

but you know what is really sad? i keep making googly eyes at the man that works in our local bakery hahahhahahahaha i am getting really pathetic

its the adventure that i crave

is this what happens when you are trapped indoors with a lunatic toddler?!!!!