To want my DCs to share a bedroom?

[Elllie]

I have a 3.5 DS and 1yr DD. I think it is a great idea to have them in one bedroom, DS in his toddler bed and DD in her big cot (that will turn into a matching bed). There are other bedrooms in the house, but being a quirky layout, this way we can have the room beside them (giving up the master bedroom that is on the other side of the house), and the study and guest bedroom we need.
DH and MIL very against this for some reason. I think it would be nice to share with a sibling when young. I did with my sister and loved it. Does it matter if boy and girl?
AIBU?

currently I have dd1 (12), dd2 (10) and dd3 (5) all sharing and ds (2) is by himself

we're about to move dd1 into a different room, move dd2 into ds's room and move ds in with dd3 (biggest room). ds would love to share with dd3, they are very close :)

have your DH and MIL given any sensible reasons why they think it's a bad idea? I can understand not sharing when they're older, but at the ages your two are I can't see an issue

I'd have separate rooms if it was an option because I HATED sharing with my sister. How often would you realistically use aguest room ? I find the sharing rooms a PITA if one of them is sick/has nightmares etc as they ALWAYS wake the other up.

Think it's a great idea. DS, 2 and DD, 4 have been in together since DS was about 8 mths and they love it. Chat to each other before going to sleep and play together in the mornings for a bit before waking us up. Will continue until one or both demand own room. They've never woken each us other up when one has been ill.

Perhaps I am just trying to replicate my childhood bedroom. I loved having my sister in the same room, giggling on a night time, waking up and jumping on ther bed to wake her up, having something that we shared. I moved into my own room at 10.
They say because we officially have the rooms, the DCs would probably like their privacy.
I was only thinking of doing it until DS was 6. I just think it is a great way of bonding.

dd and ds 3 and 6 are sharing and have done since dd was 18 months. They much prefer it. We have the space for their own rooms but not wanted at the moment.

I think when dd starts school I will decorate her bedroom and get her a new bed etc, but no rush.

Both will have bunkbeds in their own rooms so can share if they want to.

It also means we can have a playroom downstairs which would help a lot during the day. It would have been my DH study.
Is it unhygienic to share when sick, bearing in mind they are already together lots during the day?

'Unhygienic'?? There's no way you can stop them catching bugs of each other whether they share a room or not.

My 2 have been sharing for 6 months now. DS is 3.11 and DD is 1.11. They love it. They settle so much easier. I will be letting them share a room as long as they like. We are in a 2 bed at the moment and won't look to move till DS is around 6 or 7.

I shared with my younger brother until I was 12 and he was 6; no choice due to size of house. It was perfectly fine. I don't think you have any problem until they hit puberty.

Mine share happily. Go for it.

One less room to tidy up as well

Riverofsleep that is also my thinking
I don't know if DH/MIL just don't think it will work because they are a boy and girl. Does it really matter at this age? I love the bunk beds idea in each room for later. They have also said that they won't learn how to be independent - I know I have a tendency to over mother, but as long as I move them in to separate bedrooms later, I can't see it mattering somehow.

My 2yo and 4yo share a room, and the room next door stands empty.

I don't think I would EVER get ds to bed if it weren't for the promise that dd would be there too.

It doesn't matter a boy and girl sharing at that age, imo. The fact you'd have a playroom downstairs sounds great as well!

DS and DD share and it is fine. Eventually they will be in their own rooms (well, as we have DC3 on the way eventually one of them will share with DC3 and the other will have his/her own room) but they like sharing at the moment.

sounds fine as long as they can go into separate rooms before they hit puberty. They would probably like the privacy then but for young kids there is no problem.

My 2 DDs (3.5 and 1) share a room and love it. I disagree with those that say they wake each other up in the night they don't. DD2 had a vomitting bug last night and I had to go in twice and strip the bed and change her clean her up and DD1 slept through the whole thing. They do wake each other up in the morning sometimes but not always.

Go for it, I think when they get a bit older they will want their own rooms but I don't think at this age the different sex thing matters one bit.

We have recently moved house and DDs (6 and 3) were recently given the choice of having their own rooms or sharing. They chose to continue sharing.

In fact DD1 said to me that she felt sorry for only children, when asked why, she said, Daddys have mummies to go to sleep with, she had her sister to go to sleep with, and who did children with no siblings go to sleep with, and wouldn't they be lonely? She also pointed out that she wouldn't like to go to sleep on her own. I did point out to her that lots of boys and girls with siblings have their own rooms and go to sleep alone, and she thought that terribly sad and that they must be lonely. The mind of a 6 year old eh?

Honestly, mine love sharing, they never wake each other up at night when ill, the only bug bear for me is that one child will always wake at 6am, and then they'll want to wake up the other child so they can start playing. Quite often I have both children awake before 7am as a result.

When my children want their own rooms, we'll rearrange our house to make that work, but at the moment they're happy. I wouldn't worry about them being different genders either, obviously it will become an issue as they get older, but as you can easily give them their own room when they need it, I see no reason why not!

All 3 of our DD.s shared a bedroom until the oldest was 14, DD1 could have gone into her own room when she younger but preferred to stay with her sisters,

My children have always shared a room, even when they didn't need to. I think its nice for them to share that special time.
It made life easier for me doing bedtime stories etc.

I have several other friends who have spare rooms but their children share a room.