in letting my 3 year old dd choose her own clothes?

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azs everytime i get some thing its yukky!

so ive let her pick a few bits off boden and next website and there been no tantrums about not wanting to wear what ive bought as shes picked it.

however is this spoiling her too much?

she now thinks she has a free regin over the boden catalogue
and her wardrode is getting pinker by the day and giving me a headache!

My DDs picked their own clothes. From the age of 2 they knew what they wanted.

I remember buying a little sailor suit with shorts for DD1 and she said its scusting.

I think what you choose to wear is part of your personality and they should choose within reason. She always hated dresses and skirts.

Ds couldn't care less. I tell him he is my dolly to dress as I wish.

DS (nearly 2) doesn't pick his own clothes from shops or catalogues (mostly wears hand-me-downs) but often has strong feelings about what he wants to put on in the mornings. I nearly always give in. Last week he went to the supermarket in a tiger-striped sleepsuit with cardigan, shoes and floppy hat - and nobody seemed to care.

I won't let him wear swimming trunks if it's freezing or a jumper and dungarees if it's sweltering, but if he just wants to wear 'bad style combinations', I tend to let him.

Oh, from your title I thought you meant choose from her wardrobe in the morning. I don't think any of my children really chose their own clothes in the way you mean until they were about 10 or 11. At about that age I started listening to them about what they preferred to wear at least. Until then they were very happy to wear any combination from the things I bought them.

Frankly I do feel it may be a little bit of a slippery slope, and also means that you are abdicating out of negotiating with her on this issue. Negotiation inevitably means arguing/ standing against your child, but that is partly your role. I do not see a parent's role as enabling their child's every whim to be made reality. That is not the way we get things in real life unless we are a despotic tyrant. Which most of us of course are not.

I do this with ds for tops. Trousers are much of a muchness for boys so I just buy them. I limit his choice of where tops come from (mainly Boden and Gap as I like their childrens things). I tell him the quantity he is allowed to choose but allow him to pick which one he likes.

He is 4 (nearly 5) but has strong ideas about what he likes. It is not as if he can buy what he likes (if he needs 3 tops he is asked to choose 3) so I don't see the problem.

My 3yo DS doesn't even get the option of what to wear in the mornings - let alone what's in the shops, I pick it the night before and it's left out on hangers for him to put on.

I really can't be arsed with making life harder for myself just yet. I expect he'll get fussy when he starts school but until then I choose it all.

DD is almost 2 so obviously she gets no say in clothes either.

My DD is nearly four. She chooses all of her own socks, knickers and pyjamas. She doesnt really have a say as to what gets bought but she hasnt been upset to wear anything I've bought. In the mornings she gets a choice between 2 pairs of pants (or skirts depending on the weather) and 2 tops. I feel like we have a good balance.. hoping she doesnt become difficult anytime soon!

YANBU.
I have never forgotten the time I bought DD (then 3 I think) some lovely stuff in dark purple from Vertbaudet, for a special treat. She would only wear it with bribes, she said it was "all dark". I hadn't even thought of asking her if she'd like it! It was lovely quality and the colour really suited her....

I let DD (4) choose what clothes I buy her to some extent, so I would let her choose a top or two from the next catalogue, but I would say no to something inappropriate (like the black sparkly Hannah Montana high heels she took a shine to).

Luckily her most outlandish choice in my recent purchases was a grey top with a bright multicoloured cat on it, I can live with that.

oh ihought i'd get a right flamming for this, so it seems its not really that bad, if kept under control.

in a way its nce she has her own sense of style

and yes like others, im sick of buying her things that she just refuses to wear, or has to be forced into in tears,not a great start to the morning

just got to hope the pink,pink,pink phase passes by soon......

thanks for the advice

When I first read the op I thought, oooh, you're storing up trouble for yourself, who would be bothered with all the hassle of letting a 3 yr old choose their own clothes. But then I reflected...

My dc (8,6 and 3) all choose their own clothes, from shops and from their wardrobes in the mornings. It does make for some strange outfits - ds1 when about 4 would only wear orange for several weeks, ds2 now will only wear his school pe kit, and has done through most of the school holidays, and dd I have completely given up with. She only wears one of two pairs of identical trousers, both hand me downs, both v tatty old tracksuit bottom style Jojo `maman Bebe ones. The main difficulty is that she refuses to wear them the right way round.

But I don't care. My dc may look 'unusual' from time to time, but they're always at ease in their skin, and never complain of clothes being scratchy or uncomfortable.

DD1 is fairly easy going about the clothes she wears and is used to being dressed in hand-me-downs or eBay bargains. Now she's nearly 6 she'll ask if she can help choose a new skirt/whatever on eBay so we browse through the Boden etc. items in her size and she gets to say which ones she likes but appreciates that sometimes the prices go higher than I'm prepared to pay.

She did get to choose her own blouses and shoes for school though (out of a limited selection).